Son 16-6'8"-230 lbs. Refuses to take meds, failing in school, abusive at home, erratic.

Can really relate to what you're going thru, as my boy did much the same.  I did tell friend's parents (and anyone I could reach) about his negative behavior.  Really made him angry, but, as a minor, I was ultimately responsible for his stuff.  I knew he'd never act out, except stealing, which I'd find about later (and, yes, I warned parents of this, too) because it was those he loved the most he'd yell at, wouldn't dare do it to a stranger.  I had to say to myself, if these parents are going to take him in, they're, at the very least, forewarned. 

And, sadly, I finally had to tell my son "no meds, no home here."  He heard me.

Would love to read the "Jennifer Report."  Where might I find it?

Stay calm.  KJ

you poor thing, i dont know what to tell you, my mom sent me to a group home, and living with disturbed people made me agree to whatever terms are on the table, all i can say is get him out of your home, if he gets locked up, he will be forced to take his meds-and i do mean forced to take them- been in trouble with the law too, dropped out of school when i was 16-lived in the group home,and i was just full of rage..you dont know until looking back what a mess you were- unfortunately you cant make a person,even your son DO anything, god gave us free will for better or worse. you cant stop a freight train, sometimes it just has to run its course. i hate what i put my mother through -throughout those crazy years. it is only now do i recognized that, there is light at the end of the tunnel but it is a long road..i wish i could give you a hug, and tell you it will be alright- and i truly hope it will. best of luck,stay well.

  i m bipolar.  i understand.  i went through the same thing.

   my son was at that age, which is no excuse,  he was

 hanging around a bad crowd too.  He became hostile,

  verbally, abusive, punched a hole in the wall, etc.

    when he stayed with friends, i always let him back in

  i never turned him away, i had to call the police a few

 times,   eventually, he moved out,  and got a job, made

 new friends.  Thank God, he s doing better today.

    i had to protect myself, and then have patience.

   But if he would have been diagnosed with bipolar,

  and wasnt taking his meds......then i would get on the

 phone and call an ambulance,   i know a hospital isnt

 there to condemn, they are there to help, and make sure

  people are on the right medication, i think he needs to

 be convinced that he needs his meds. by someone other

 than you, since he s just in the rebellious stage.

  and sounds like he is abusing a substance,  which means

  a hospital would be a good place to dry out.  tell him

   when you make a decision , its because you love him.

      if he becomes physically violent, dont hesitate to call

   for help.

  i m bipolar.  i understand.  i went through the same thing.

   my son was at that age, which is no excuse,  he was

 hanging around a bad crowd too.  He became hostile,

  verbally, abusive, punched a hole in the wall, etc.

    when he stayed with friends, i always let him back in

  i never turned him away, i had to call the police a few

 times,   eventually, he moved out,  and got a job, made

 new friends.  Thank God, he s doing better today.

    i had to protect myself, and then have patience.

   But if he would have been diagnosed with bipolar,

  and wasnt taking his meds......then i would get on the

 phone and call an ambulance,   i know a hospital isnt

 there to condemn, they are there to help, and make sure

  people are on the right medication, i think he needs to

 be convinced that he needs his meds. by someone other

 than you, since he s just in the rebellious stage.

  and sounds like he is abusing a substance,  which means

  a hospital would be a good place to dry out.  tell him

   when you make a decision , its because you love him.

      if he becomes physically violent, dont hesitate to call

   for help.