when some one is caught in a manic mood by there spouse doing some thing wrong like cheating how does that manic mind know he wants to stay with his wife when for the past 2 mnonths all hes done is lie and cheat ...and please understand this is not his personality ...is there any one out here who can help me with bipolar infedelity and answer ? im at a loss and have exhausted every thing plaese
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Q: please can some one help my hubby was diagnosed bipolar at 40 had no idea any thing was wrong
Answers (3)
2/21/09 2:49pm
Hi, Italiagirl. You deserve a medal for your compassion and understanding. Judith offers excellent advice. One thing to add: You mentioned being married only 2 months. This means your new husband has had to adjust to a lot of life changes very fast, on top of all the wedding stress.
Stress is to bipolar what a match is to fire. There is a very good chance that all the accumulated stress has triggered his mania. When he eventually cycles down, it is advisable for the two of you to work together on stress-management strategies. "Loving Someone with Bipolar" by Preston and Fast is excellent in this regard.
Again, your understanding is beyond the call of duty. Be hopeful ...
2/19/09 4:33pm
You are very understanding that this huge change in his personality is his illness. Some women would or men would just walk away.
He really needs some phychiatric help. If you can talk to him and tell him you're afraid for him and want to stay with him and help him. The sex he's having may be unprotected sex and putting himself and you in jeopardy as well. His irratic behavior can be dangerous to himself and to you. If he has a close friend he trusts, try to have him help you. Get him to a doctor that can help as soon as you can. In his mania, he may not believe he's doing anything wrong. I hope it works out for you.
Judi~
2/21/09 2:54pm
Oops. I misread the "two months" part of your question. Obviously, he is not new to the marriage. But the stuff I said on stress and all the rest still applies. Sorry about the misunderstanding ...
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