You must consider yourself to be important! I am dating a recently diagnosed newly medicated guy with bipolar who used to break everything that was mine throw things at me corner me in rooms break down dorrs ive locked myself behind for my own protection,he has tried to isolate me from every friend and member of my family plus cut me and all of them down...you do need to realize i have removed myself several times due to his destruction...they are mentally ill. if they do not want to take their meds at the same time everyday,go to therapy for ALL issues(talk therapy,drug abuse,anger management,ect),get the proper sleep,diet and exercise they require,and deal with their illness then you are a glutton for punishment...it is not your job to fix them,you do not need to feel or be made to feel guilty if you leave, main question to you as you probably also had bad luck and self esteem issues dating before as i have, even though they seemed to adore you at first that unwavering attention became a ziploc baggie and YOU dont have to allow him to keep you in it...my question is...if you knew what he was like ,knowing what you know of him now, if you could go back to the beginning would you ever date him?! you know your answer as i know mine, its a big fat no. yes i love my guy too, but if they dont help themselves BY THEMSELVES you are hurting them,,,not helping them,my guy has done more to help himself since i packed a bag to stay with my parents...i wont go back until he straightens it out for himself because when i gave in right away...nothing change! he has physically harmed me as well,not to your degree though,you may need counseling as i have taken for myself to know that you were put here to live your life..is this what you dreamt of doing with it?! hell no its not...so help him and yourself...pack a bag or 2,put it AND yourself in the car with your phone and purse be outside in your car , near people say meet him at a busy gas station for your safety ...SAFETY FIRST...and be ready to leave with the car running when you talk to him..tell him you love him and dont tell him where youre going...dont.tell him he has to get himself straightened out because you dont deserve this.Because YOU DONT! And get yourself into a counseling center with a flexible pay scale.. some are as low as $15/session and well worth it ! leave for at least 2 weeks to rethink your life and youll see and feel a change..you havent been respected..you must respect yourself enough when others dont... you must say thats it im pulling myself out of this situation...or hanging up the phone...respect yourself....bipolar may not be their fault but when they wont do anything about it...its abuse and you have been so so abused.. if your child went through what youve been through...it should pain you enough to leave and never return...that relationship is a death sentence...please save your own life by leaving...you are hurting everyone who loves you...including you! That is not love !
With my whole heart i wish God gives you strength...that you may turn all the love you have into yourself !
*~ serenity prayer~*
Lord help me to accept the things that i cannot change
the strength to change the things i can
and the wisdom to KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
make him take care of himself stop enabling him to abuse you i dont want you dead...people with bipolar dont just commit suicide they kill people..you just cant find it on the internet very often..trust me ive looked and only found it in 2 links...i also asked the operator @ the number below..just ask them !!!
PLEASE call this number you need help its the
Depression Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) 1(800)826-3632
your family didnt bring you into this world to have you die at the hands of your boyfriend...treatment is his only option for the rest of his life....you have every option !!! GOD BLESS YOU>>>WITH ALL MY LOVE>>>SAVE YOURSELF !!!!!