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Saturday, October 18, 2008 Rosanne asks

Q: I am a Bi-Polar, who sees a Psychiatrist, I am on Medications, Klonapin, Prozac, Neurontin, Abilify,

I have no support system, which I must admit is of my own doing. I seem to have alienated my family, and friends, I do not understand why I have done this. And I don't know how to make it right.  My family does not like hearing about my Bi-Polar Disorder, but it is such a big part of my life. I tend to be a Depressive.

Being alone is freightening, yet I would like to have some understanding as to why I alienate people, so I can stop doing it.

I do not sit around and just discuss my Bi-Polar, in fact I rarely mention it. as I know my family and friends do not want to hear it.

Please, if anyone else has this problem, please help me. I am scared.

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10/24/08 2:31am

One thing you can do is go to a support group. I go once a week and sometimes people come and say that they have no support at home. It really helps to just be with other people that have similar diagnoses and the discussion can start from there. Family may never even TRY to empathize, but you can move forward with your health. Take care of yourself.

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10/18/08 5:43pm

I understand what you are saying.  I did find some relief in group talks at my psychologist.  It is like a quiet secret nobody wants to talk about.  Like it is contagious. But I have just started this computer thing and I am hoping to make friends.  I have found that alot of people do not get it when they do listen and again they really don't want too. I guess it is that everyone has thier highs and lows and it worries them, wapecially family since thier is the genetic thing.

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10/18/08 6:36pm

I know exactly what you are talking about.  It is frightening and very, very lonely.  But realize, you may not have alienated your family.  Their own inablility to deal with the situation and hear about it may have caused their withdrawal.  I have the same problem.  That is one of the 1,000 reasons we don't talk about it.  We perceive that people don't want to know - and we may be right.  Also, we isolate ourselves from former aquaintances and from making new friends because we don't feel comfortable talking about this very big part of our lives.  So don't beat yourself up.  I think you're reactions are normal.  It's hard to have a diagnosis like ours and deal with other people on equal footing.  I wish I had an answer as to how to go about bridging that gap though.  I could use it myself.  I have no support group either.

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1/10/09 7:44pm

Hi Rosanne:

 

I have a small support system built up around friends with common ground. People really think that if you tell them that you are bi-polar that you are just trying to get more attention, fuzzy wazzys, you love to see docs and take lots and lots of pills. There are some many reactions to our illness by others. 

 

Unfortunately you need to start moving outside the family, find friends (avoid coworkers all they will do is gossip and secrew you honestly). Join a gym, swimming club etc and find others who will see you as you want to be seen.

 

Move on it get off your butt and move its 2009.

 

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By Rosanne— Last Modified: 12/26/10, First Published: 10/18/08