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You may not want to hear this, but he is BOTH of those guys.  He is diagnosed BP yes?  That is what it means.  I had the exact same things with my BP ex.  Unforunatley mine did not end well.  I tried walking away several times but he would get even madder that I wouldn't listen to his rants and yelling, then blame me for not being a good listener for him.    I suggest walking away when it gets bad, but you also need an action plan.  When he is in a GOOD mood you should try to discuss how to handle it with him.  Or what may work better is to go see a therapist together.  Then you will have an impartial 3rd party to rely on.    You can read my posts... I dealt with the Jekyl/Hyde personality for far too long and it destroyed my marriage... I hear people say "don't take his insults/yelling personally - it's just the illness"... but I find that almost near impossible.  When you have someone you love acting like you are crap on his shoe every other week for no reason, it's destructive.   good luck to you.