Cancer Has Made Me Appreciate Special Moments In My Life
I have an unproven theory that once you face a life-threatening disease like breast cancer, you are more inclined than other people to celebrate the special moments that follow. Or maybe this theory is just a big rationalization because I like to gather people together and throw parties. But as we approach the spring and summer season of big moments--graduations, proms, weddings, vacations, reunions, family celebrations--I feel the need to mark these special occasions.
I hate to sound like a cheesy Hallmark card, but maybe some of these moments feel more special to me because I fully imagined that I might not be here to see them--such as my older daughter graduating from high school in a few weeks, or taking a special summer vacation we have planned. I wonder if other people have noticed the same thing?
Or maybe it has nothing to do with cancer in my past, and it’s just a sign of growing older and wiser. In my younger days, many holidays, such as my birthday or Mother’s Day, left me feeling disappointed that the reality didn’t live up to my fantasy. I would find fault with how my family members chose to celebrate the occasion--for instance, criticizing the gift my husband chose--what made him think I wanted an espresso maker, a kitchen appliance, of all things? --instead of appreciating the thought that went into it--my love of coffee. These days, I try to be more Zen about such matters, even as I anticipate my fourth year of Mother’s Day Fruit of the Month Club. I love fruit.
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Published On: May 11, 2006