Well, I WAS a care giver. On the morning of October 31, 2008, my wife Sue of 39 years passed away. She had fought breast cancer for almost 3 years. She was diagnosed with a lump in November 2005. We decided to have a mastectomy and the reconstruction. In December 2007, she complained of a soreness under her arm. It was just going to be exploratory surgery to check the sentinal node. It ended up being the removal of twenty-four cancerous lymph nodes. She underwent chemo from January until September. The oncologist told us then that the cancer had changed to a triple negative condition. But, there were more drugs that could be given. Sue said, no more. The drugs would not have extended her life but a few more weeks and the side effects were not so good.
I really miss her... everyday.
Oh, David... I'm so sorry for your pain. We are all diminished when one of us in this community passes on. You had so many years together, I know Sue is still there with you - not her body, but in your heart. I hope you have family and friends there to help you through this. I'm not clear from your post if Sue just passed on recently, or awhile ago, but either way - you have to walk down this grief path, in order to come out the other side. Time will heal; never completely, but I believe you'll feel better, with time. Our thoughts are with you - PJH