I'm Scared, But in the Fight Again

Tiffany, I'm sorry to hear that your cancer has spread.  you might want to check out these two online support groups:  bcmets.org and Advanced Breast Cancer Support Community.

Pete Bevin is the host for the mailing list at www.bcmets.org, which he and his late wife Menya Wolfe started in 2000.  The bcmets mailing list works through your email.  People write the list with questions and comments and respond through email.  I'm a member of a similar group that Pete hosts and I've developed very close relationships with people on the list.

            A newer support group is the Advanced Breast Cancer Support Community at http://www.inspire.com/groups/advanced-breast-cancer/ run by a group called Inspire.  According to the website, “Inspire was created in 2005 by a group of friends. We envisioned a place where we as patients, caregivers, family and friends could support one another, and where we could do so in a safe, secure, privacy-protected environment.”

 

You'll probably hear from some people with mets who have lived a long time with a good quality of life despite their mets.

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Gee this has really knocked me for a six. I am so sorry to hear of your bad news. I go on this site occassionally and just have a read. I have actually corresponded with you in the past. I was diagnosed in June 2007. Like you I am young. I have only one child. Not that any of that makes a difference. I wish nobody had to get any kind of sickness. Whether it be cancer or anything at all. A good friend of mine that I made during chemo had to have a biopsy today as she found a lump in her neck. It is 12 months next week since she was diagnosed with bc aswell. She is freaking out thinking it has spread. It is just such a roller coaster ride this. One minute you are able to be really positive and the next minute you can be in a depression so deep you never think you will get out. I have recently been reading a book about peoples different stories with breast cancer and I have realised one thing, well I really knew it before, but not to put into words. Being positive and having faith is not about being cured. And you cant loose faith or positivity because of not being cured. Especially now you need to hold onto those two things more than ever. I now have a lot of friends that are fighting cancer and some are positive and some not so positive. But the thing about being positive is just really living each day to the absolute fullest and making the most of life as it is. We cannot change what is happening to us. And being down in the dumps will only add to make things worse i believe. You are living my worst fear. And Tiffany I will include you in my prayers every single day, but we all need to try to make the most out of what we have been given. I too have heard stories about people living a long time with metastatic disease and I hope that will be you, and I hope you dont think I am being blaze' because it is not happening to me. That is not it at all, because I too dont know what tomorrow will hold for me either. I know there is nothing I can do to make it better for you, but if you want a friend to talk to I will gladly be here. My email adress is willingham6@bigpond.com   -No dot au. If you prefer not to I will understand and I wish you the best of luck. xxx