My Wife Carol has been through the chem and breast removal as well as radeation?? I have been taking care of my loving wife and will do what ever she wants.. She has been through a punishment of drugs and treatment only she can say I have done that. I have been there and gone through It With her.. My Question is: I am having a hard time adjusting to this.. We are in our 50's and I had a hard time adjusting aftering i got out of the service.. How do I prepare, how do you plan for something that you know is coming. How do you talk about it..How do you talk with the family about it.. I didn't not expect to find out that a year ago we were going to face breast canser. Need help  in foram.