Breast Cancer Husbands: The First 48 Hours

I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, DCIS.  After the surgery, the path report results changed that diagnosis to IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma).  This has now added a whole new layer of worry to our waiting.  My husband is not good at talking about his emotions, but I've been with him long enough to know the signs of his deep concern and care.  I've learned something in the process, too...I need to ask for what I want.  It's okay to ask for hugs, kisses, hand holding ... anything that seals that bond of partnership caring.  Bless you and your wife on your life journey!

Namaste,

Chele

This is a great article about how husbands can offer support...and how important it is for them to seek support for themselves.  I like how you and your wife talked about your roles going into treatment.  I'm awaiting tests to find out if I have breast cancer, and I've already decided...should a positive diagnosis be made...that my request to my husband will be that he allow me to maintain my normal life and responsibilities as long as I possibily can.  Let me drive if I safely can.   Let me cook, let me remain social contacts.  Let me continue to handle all the household paperwork and bills.  Let me just be "Me".  Remember that I have feelings, and cancer could never take those away.   Thank you for your wonderful article.