So, you’ve had a mastectomy, and you’re on the road to recovery. Physically, you’re feeling great. But cosmetically – well, that’s a different story. 

Unless you’re very small-breasted, you can’t wear your old bras or swimsuits anymore; that one empty side doesn’t look right. So you have a decision to make: you can choose to go bra-less; wear your current bra, and stuff the empty side yourself; or get a breast form – which requires a new bra, one with a pocket to hold it in place.

First, determine if you’ll need a special bra. Not all women who have a mastectomy need a new bra afterwards. If you’re having further surgery for breast reconstruction or implants, you’ll probably be able to go back to your favorite bras, though perhaps in a different size.

But if you’re done with surgery, and will be wearing a prosthesis (breast form), you’ll need a special mastectomy bra – as well as a specially designed bathing suit – to hold that breast form in place.

You’re no doubt anxious to get your mastectomy, and all it entails, behind you. But don’t even think about shopping for a special bra till your chest has completely healed from the surgery, and all the swelling has disappeared. Be patient; this may take up to a couple of months.

In the meantime, wear whatever undergarment feels most comfortable. Many women find a camisole, or a camisole with soft cups, is perfect. Others prefer a stretchy sports bra, one offering good overall support for your entire chest area. Just be sure you don’t wear anything that’s tight or binding right under your natural breast line, as it’s bound to be uncomfortable, and could delay your recovery.

Once you’ve healed, your first task is to purchase a breast form, or several forms for different occasions – e.g., an assortment in slightly different sizes and shapes and materials, for everyday wear; and a lightweight, waterproof form for swimming.

Your breast form will be nice and soft. 

Generally made of soft silicone gel with a polyurethane coating, breast forms are designed to weigh the same as breast tissue, so that they hang right, move naturally, and help you feel balanced. Ask your surgeon’s nurse about how and where to shop for a breast form.

When you’re ready to go bra-shopping, find a good fitter. The hospital or cancer center where you had your surgery should be able to recommend someone local, a professional fitter who specializes in mastectomy undergarments.

You want to work with someone who understands the particular surgery you had; your needs going forward, and what type of bra might best fit those needs.

Most important, you want someone who treats you with respect, understanding, and gentle care. This is an emotional time for you, and you want to connect with someone who’s had experience dealing with women in your situation.