5) “Want to do some research? I know of a great breast cancer site…”

Many women these days immediately turn to the Internet when seeking information. Since you’re reading this post, you’ve already discovered this site. If she’s comfortable online, show her how to register here so she can ask questions, read about breast cancer, and write about her treatment, feelings, and hopes for the future – all in a safe, supportive atmosphere.

Most survivors desperately want to connect with other survivors. Breast cancer is a sisterhood; we’re a long chain of women, some leading, some following, all holding hands as we get through this together. Help her join this community; it’s one of the very best things you can do for her.

Bonus: This won’t apply to everyone, but if your friend is religious or spiritual, touch on that. Tell her you’ll pray for her; you’re sending her good karma, or that you’ll do some Reiki with her. Treat her to a therapeutic massage. Join her on the spiritual part of her cancer journey, if you’re able. Healing the soul is just as important as healing the body.

Finally, if none of the words above seem to fit your relationship (or the circumstances), a hug is always welcome. Or a shoulder squeeze. Even a simple pat on the arm. The human touch – literally – is wonderfully healing.