They are especially not going to discuss it with V because she is the one that is suffering, so there is no point in her suffering for her family if they start getting upset.
V would suffer for her disease and also would suffer because she is making her family suffer. And they have to try their hardest and focus all their energy on making her happy for whatever time she has left.
I disagree with Carolyn, because instead of helping V understand why her family is being that way, she just explained why V's family shouldn't do that and told V to press her family to discuss her death, which is not an answer. It is just advice on how V should ask and to keep asking.
Unlike Carolyn, I would have advised V that her family is aware of the problem at hand, but their mission is to give her strength and make her happy. Talking about V's death and what should happen in the event of her death is accepting it and basically telling her it's ok to die, and we're with you... that does not give her hope and basically gives her the ok to not fight and accept that cancer equals death, and that's is not the case for everyone.
Many people have survived cancer and even if you will die you have to fight for your life and try to enjoy yourself as much as you can.
