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A Valentine to My Breast Cancer Sisters

Phyllis Johnson Health Guide February 13, 2011
  • The tendency to find good things about cancer annoys me.  I like being optimistic, but cancer is such an ugly disease that attempts to lighten it up seem offensive.  If you have similar reactions, please forgive me while I talk about one blessing cancer has brought me.   I heard on...

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  • PJ Hamel
    Health Guide
    Feb. 13, 2011

    Phyllis, I've found the exact same thing - the cancr bond transcends absolutely everything. Add the bond of womanhood, and it's no wonder we can relate to one another and put aside any differences springing from race, religion, social demographics, or politics. Thank you for this beautiful Valentine - sending my love to you and all of our sisters, here and...

    RHMLucky777

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    Phyllis, I've found the exact same thing - the cancr bond transcends absolutely everything. Add the bond of womanhood, and it's no wonder we can relate to one another and put aside any differences springing from race, religion, social demographics, or politics. Thank you for this beautiful Valentine - sending my love to you and all of our sisters, here and around the world. PJH

  • miriam
    Feb. 18, 2011

    Dear PJ.

     

          Belated happy Heart's Day.  I also would like to thank you for all your write up which helps us all.  More power to you.

     

                                                      ...

    RHMLucky777

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    Dear PJ.

     

          Belated happy Heart's Day.  I also would like to thank you for all your write up which helps us all.  More power to you.

     

                                                                          Miriam

     

     

    • PJ Hamel
      Health Guide
      Feb. 18, 2011

      Thanks so much, Miriam - I love that I'm able to reach out and help so many women via this site... Take care - PJH

  • Phyllis Johnson
    Health Guide
    Feb. 18, 2011

    Thank you all for sharing your experiences with the bond of women and the bond of cancer.  It's a shame that it takes cancer to get us to spread our circles of friendship, but it's good that we can expand those circles to help each other when cancer strikes.

  • jamnstv
    Feb. 17, 2011

    Thank-you for your post.  I believe this one of the very few subjects where people of all opinions,all walks of life,lifestyles,and anything else that tends to  separate people actually draws us together.  God Bless with gentle hugs, jill

     

    Always try to do the next right thing

  • deaikin
    Feb. 17, 2011

    I agree with you, Phyliss. I have made many friends thru my support group, most of whom I would never have met. It is the one common bond.

  • Andrea
    Feb. 17, 2011

    Phyllis, I agree with you about the bond among cancer survivors, and I definitely agree with PJ that "the bond of womanhood" makes it even stronger. My lifelong experience is that women are better at agreeing to disagree than the other gender ... We're the ones who keep things ticking over, so we learn early how to put aside our differences and get on with...

    RHMLucky777

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    Phyllis, I agree with you about the bond among cancer survivors, and I definitely agree with PJ that "the bond of womanhood" makes it even stronger. My lifelong experience is that women are better at agreeing to disagree than the other gender ... We're the ones who keep things ticking over, so we learn early how to put aside our differences and get on with things.

  • bernicesalter170
    Feb. 17, 2011

    My Sisters. We are caring a mongster none of us chose.Why we don't know but God does,might be a stumbling block, but could be a stepping stone.Life is a mistery but it's part of a larger plan.I can not say Why me? but who else? I could not wish this on any one.This thing I carry keep me praying, and hoping soon some one will find a cure.Every...

    RHMLucky777

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    My Sisters. We are caring a mongster none of us chose.Why we don't know but God does,might be a stumbling block, but could be a stepping stone.Life is a mistery but it's part of a larger plan.I can not say Why me? but who else? I could not wish this on any one.This thing I carry keep me praying, and hoping soon some one will find a cure.Every time I open my eyes I thank my God.Stay strong Sister's stay strong.

    • Phyllis Johnson
      Health Guide
      Feb. 17, 2011

      We are all hoping for the day when no one has to say "Why me?" or "Who else?"  I'm confident it will come, but it can not be too soon.

    • miriam
      Feb. 18, 2011

      Dear Berni,

       

      I agree with you, only God knows why, but what matter most is our faith in God.   Let us all continue trusting God and live by faith everyday.  

       

       

                                                      ...

      RHMLucky777

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      Dear Berni,

       

      I agree with you, only God knows why, but what matter most is our faith in God.   Let us all continue trusting God and live by faith everyday.  

       

       

                                                                    Miriam

       

  • Anonymous
    Jan
    Feb. 17, 2011

    Phyllis, I absolutely agree with your observation. I have diametrically opposing views on many issues with women from my old breast cancer support group, yet we continue to go to each others' book signings, even when we haven't seen each other in years! And I am working with someone on some important lymphedema aspects even though we differ in age and political...

    RHMLucky777

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    Phyllis, I absolutely agree with your observation. I have diametrically opposing views on many issues with women from my old breast cancer support group, yet we continue to go to each others' book signings, even when we haven't seen each other in years! And I am working with someone on some important lymphedema aspects even though we differ in age and political and religious bents, all because we share that lymphedema bond. There's something unique about these conditions that ties us together. I love it! Jan

  • angellinda
    Feb. 17, 2011

    That's Cool wishing  a Happy Valentines Day to all!Innocent Right back at you! I've been so feeling poorly! I lost another 1/2 of a tooth again! I keep getting  infections.. Since We can't afford dental care! As for the Hot flashes! They're prickly, hurtful and all! I sweat so bad and all! I can't sleep anymore! Does anything Help with this? Does anything...

    RHMLucky777

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    That's Cool wishing  a Happy Valentines Day to all!Innocent Right back at you! I've been so feeling poorly! I lost another 1/2 of a tooth again! I keep getting  infections.. Since We can't afford dental care! As for the Hot flashes! They're prickly, hurtful and all! I sweat so bad and all! I can't sleep anymore! Does anything Help with this? Does anything help with the dryness of your nipple/breast after Radiation? I'd love to hear and suggestions! I wish you the best in your healing & recovery. I drop things all the time! I can't use my hands or feet or knees or walk like I could before! It does annoy me to hear. At least you're alive! I'm alive grateful, hopeful  yet hopeless! I do exist but have no quality of life! I can't do much for myself anymore or others!~! My floor hasn't been moped in over one year!! Duties I can no longer preform! And since my Husband lost his job & our insurance 2 + Years ago. Times are tough! I have NO income at all! We live on Love & nothing else!!

    • PJ Hamel
      Health Guide
      Feb. 17, 2011

      I surely hope things improve for you soon - don't know how, but please don't lose hope. Change is a constant, and I hope it brings better times to you. Take care- PJH

    • Andrea
      Feb. 17, 2011

      Hi Angelinda,

       

      For hot flashes I take a mini-dose of venlafaxine, an anti-depressant. It really helps - it doesn't eliminate them but they're less frequent and less intense. And it doesn't interfere with the action of tamoxifen. You might want to ask your doctor about it. And for your irradiated skin, if you're still in the "burned" phase I recommend...

      RHMLucky777

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      Hi Angelinda,

       

      For hot flashes I take a mini-dose of venlafaxine, an anti-depressant. It really helps - it doesn't eliminate them but they're less frequent and less intense. And it doesn't interfere with the action of tamoxifen. You might want to ask your doctor about it. And for your irradiated skin, if you're still in the "burned" phase I recommend Silvazine - it's a prescription item so again, you would have to ask your doctor.

    • Phyllis Johnson
      Health Guide
      Feb. 17, 2011

      Thank goodness you still have love!  I dropped things and tripped a lot for a while.  That does get better as you learn to compensate by using vision and muscles to figure out where your hands and feet are instead of feedback from your now-unreliable nerves.  

      My mother, who had bad hot flashes for years, always had a small fan blowing on her;...

      RHMLucky777

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      Thank goodness you still have love!  I dropped things and tripped a lot for a while.  That does get better as you learn to compensate by using vision and muscles to figure out where your hands and feet are instead of feedback from your now-unreliable nerves.  

      My mother, who had bad hot flashes for years, always had a small fan blowing on her; so you might try that.  A cool washcloth or cold pack on the neck can help too.  

      For the dry skin, check with the doctor about appropriate creams because the wrong one could make things worse.  Shower with warm, not hot, water.  You probably can skip the soap, which dries the skin.  There are some non-soap cleansers, but you probably don't need even those every day.

      I hope your financial situation soon turns around.  That won't solve all your physical side-effect problems, but it will reduce your overall stress.

    • miriam
      Feb. 18, 2011

      Dear Angelinda,

       

            As to the dryness of the breast after radiation, I recommend lotion with aloevera which was very effective in my case before.  You may try it. Also, I will include you in my prayers.  

       

                                    ...

      RHMLucky777

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      Dear Angelinda,

       

            As to the dryness of the breast after radiation, I recommend lotion with aloevera which was very effective in my case before.  You may try it. Also, I will include you in my prayers.  

       

                                                                            Miriam

       

  • Susan G
    Feb. 17, 2011

    It goes back to respecting Diversity - we are all so different, but yet a common thread like cancer can become the bond that ties us all together.    It's that ability to look another cancer survivor (or surthriver as I like to call us) in the eye, and w/o a word, say, "I know what you are going through and this too shall pass.  Stay Strong!"...

    RHMLucky777

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    It goes back to respecting Diversity - we are all so different, but yet a common thread like cancer can become the bond that ties us all together.    It's that ability to look another cancer survivor (or surthriver as I like to call us) in the eye, and w/o a word, say, "I know what you are going through and this too shall pass.  Stay Strong!"

    • angellinda
      Feb. 17, 2011

      Wishing you a great belated Valentines Day. My PC is up in our loft. Very steep steps to get up to! With all of my brutal side effects. I can't always make it here! I live in unbearable pain! I do try to celebrate all Happy Days/occasions. I celebrate and salute  you all here for fighting hard to be cured!! I wish you all the healing, wellness, cures that...

      RHMLucky777

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      Wishing you a great belated Valentines Day. My PC is up in our loft. Very steep steps to get up to! With all of my brutal side effects. I can't always make it here! I live in unbearable pain! I do try to celebrate all Happy Days/occasions. I celebrate and salute  you all here for fighting hard to be cured!! I wish you all the healing, wellness, cures that you deserve!! Sending my care. I have too many awful things going on to mention. But my Well wishes, kind heart and  you are in my prayers, well wishes and I send you all my Healing well wishes!

  • JUDYLEANN
    Feb. 14, 2011

    Thank you for this well written heart felt post. I wish you a happy valentine's day too. I got good news today and wanted to share it. On Feb. 4, I had a lumpectomy. Today I went to the surgeon to find out the results. Though the area of cancer was much bigge than he had thought, he did get it all and the lymp nodes are cancer free. I am so very happy. Now...

    RHMLucky777

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    Thank you for this well written heart felt post. I wish you a happy valentine's day too. I got good news today and wanted to share it. On Feb. 4, I had a lumpectomy. Today I went to the surgeon to find out the results. Though the area of cancer was much bigge than he had thought, he did get it all and the lymp nodes are cancer free. I am so very happy. Now I will start the AI drug therapy and as soon as I have healed from the surergy I will start the 33 radiation treatments. I am so glad it was caught in time and has not spread to the nodes. I wanted to share this wonderful news. I know sometimes I will need an ear or eye to vent a little with my concerns, I it is so wonderul to know that I can come to this site and chat with women who are going, and have  gone though the same thing. Have a wonderful day and a blessed one. Each and everyone is in my prayers. Judy

    • Phyllis Johnson
      Health Guide
      Feb. 15, 2011

      Judy, thank you for your kind words.  I'm delighted to hear about your good pathology report.  I'm sure that was a tremendous relief.  Keep in touch and let us know how your treatment progresses.