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Q: Husband breast cancer caregiver refuses sex with wife after her treatment

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in Feb 09 and completed my treatment in Aug 09. Now my husband refuses to have sex with me saying that he never ever felt like it even before during our marriage of 19 yrs. He wants to have another sex partner and has taken a no objection certificate from me too. He says he loves me very much and does not want to cheat on me but wants to do things with my approval. I am heart broken. Cannot speak to anyone as i come from a very strict Christian background.

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11/12/09 6:26am

This is a bigger problem than just your cancer.  You certainly should not let him pressure you into giving consent to such an arrangement.  Plenty of people find sex works just fine after breast cancer surgery.  I'd suggest finding a counselor, preferably for both of you.  If your husband refuses to go, go by yourself and get some perspective on your feelings about this rejection from your husband and some ideas about where to go from here.

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