I am 51.  I found a small .. really small, something like the size of the head of a straight pin lump in my right breast.  I pannicked.. went to my OB.  He couldn't find it until I pointed it out.  He said he doens't think it's anything, but said he wants to follow up due to my age.  He sent me for a dianogsitc mammogram and ultrasound.  Both showed nothing.  Not even something that they had to investigate.. showed nothing.  Since it was diagnositic I spoke to the radiologist who read the images, and she said my breasts were easy to read.. and she saw absolutely nothing abnomral in the place of concern or anywhere else on the breast.  Compare the fillms to my films from 2005,2006,2007.  Said she geussed this was good news and not good news.. good news meaning the see noting.. bad new meaning it would be nice if they saw something and confirmed it was nothing.  She also commented that it's probably too small to biopsy?  Is that true? So my OB called with the results.. which I already know, so I asked what could we be feeling that doesn't show up.  He said normal breast tissue.. fatty tissue.  He has recommdended I got see a surgeon/specialist to confirm exactly what this is is or isn't.  Becuase these surgeons are so busy, and especially when you say your films are nomral, they try to schedule you out months as if it's nothing.    After many panic phone calls, I now actually scheduled three appoints with three different spedcialts all about a week aprt from the other.  I have read so many stories on the web, of missed cancer, that I want to make sure that I am comfortable with what the surgeon tells me.  If the frist doesn't satisfy me, I will see the 2nd, and so on and so forth.   My question here is, just what could it be that I'm feeling that doesn't show up?  It's so small.. pin head like I said, sort of like 6 o'clock under the aerola area.  Have to look realy hard to find it.   I tell my friends it feels like the size of say a normal sized white-head pimple i had on my face when I was 16.  It is so small, but it feels perfectaly round.. but too small to tell if it's hard.. soft.. movable, etc.

I realize that searching the web is a dangerous and scary task, as we don't really tend hear to good stories, people tend to write about the not-so-good stories.  So what should I ask these specialists.. any specific questions anyone can think of? 

I trust my OB, but I do not know these surgeons.. so bascially until they gain my trust, then I do not trust anything they tell me.  I have to go in with the idea that I am my own advocate.

My original thought was to demand an MRI, and a biopsy, but if he can feel it should I just demand it be taken out and not worry about teh MRI.  I dont' want it in there no matter what it is? Any thougths would be greatly appreciated.. I haven't slept in a week.. this is awful.   What could we be feeling that doesn't show up anywhere?

My fear is they are going to say.. ok, you are fine go home, and lets watch it.  This is not going to happen..I'm 51.. I will not survive the stress.   

thank you.