Bobbie, I'm also an IBC survivor.  At the time of my treatment in 1998, my surgeon wanted me to wait a year before discussing reconstruction, but my oncologist wanted me to wait two years.  It's not an issue of reconstruction reactivating the cancer.  You don't need to worry about that if you are ready for reconstruction.  Since most IBC recurrences occur within two years of treatment, my oncologist didn't want to have to deal with a possible recurrence being hidden by the reconstructed breast.  When I hit two years out, I was a bit like you; I was tired of surgery, treatments, and hospitals.  I put reconstruction off, and ended up never having it.

The plastic surgeon is the one who will have to tell you whether you are a good candidate for reconstruction.  Unfortunately, many IBC patients have had so much damage to their skin from radiation, that they are not good candidates for implants.  However, if your skin is in good condition, implants might work for you.  Many IBC patients are very happy with tram flap or DIEP reconstruction.  I would strongly encourage you to go ahead and talk to the plastic surgeon.  Then you will know what is and isn't possible in your case.  Keep the oncologist and your original surgeon in the loop about what the plastic surgeon suggests and make sure that all your doctors are OK with the plastic surgeon's plan.  If you think you want reconstruction, now is the time to find out what can be done.  Hope you get good news from the plastic surgeon.