Kathy, whining is JUST FINE—call it "venting"! That's what this site is for (among many other things). Unfortunately, there's no sure-fire cure for hot flashes other than hormone relacement therapy, which is pretty much out for you (since I'm assuming you have ER/PR-receptive cancer). I've found that caffeine and alcohol both play a role in hot flashes, at least for me - so watch your intake of both of those, and see if your hot flashes are related. Also, a new treatment is just barely being shown effective, but nowhere near being rolled out to a large audience yet - nerve blocks to the nerve center that controls your body temperature. Stay tuned on that one. And in the meantime, DCIS is cancer just as much as any other kind - it's the "I have cancer" kick in the gut that makes us all sisters, not the treatment you go through. Here's a piece on "cancer competition" you might enjoy. good luck with those flashes! - PJH