Laurie, there are two types of tests you can take to determine HER2 receptivity. Ask your oncologist if further testing would determine for sure your status. If s/he can then conclusively say you're triple negative, then you need to go at this with chemo. If you haven't already, please read our triple negative FAQS for more information about your options. Good luck - PJH

OK - I believe that's the normal chemo they'd give for triple negative, anyway, so you're heading in the right direction if it does turn our you're HER2-negative. And do pursue the diagnosis - I'm betting an "uncertain" will be classified as negative, but you want to make sure they've done what they can to make a solid determination. Take care, Laurie - PJH

Laurie, please don't "dmand" anything - I've found that docs are often really put off by patients demanding rather than requesting. I'd discuss with your oncologist what the plan is, going forward. S/he probably already has the protocol in place, which might include scans, MRIs, bloodwork - I don't know what it would be, but I'm sure there's a standard of care that will be followed. If you're uncomfortable with the plan, discuss your questions with your doctor. If still uncomfortable, ask for a referral for a second opinion, OK? Good luck - PJH

Laurie, glad we could be of help through this challenging process. Technically, cancer cells would have to pass through your lymph nodes in order to move to other places in your body. But sometimes so few make it through - maybe even just a single cell - that the pathology doesn't see them. Even when lymph nodes are negative, there's still a possibility the cancer will spread. Surely a MUCH, MUCH lower chance, but still there... Be happy for your negative nodes, and go forward  believing you're going to be just fine, OK? Best of luck to you, sister survivor! PJH

Laurie, you're in the "in between" age group where your periods might not resume; your doctor is right. If it's going to come back, there's no predicting when... I'd suggest you request a blood test that will show if you're truly menopausal, or if it's possible your period is going to resume; it's a common test given to many women who are in peri-menopause.

Even if your period doesn't come back, you'll still be normal - normal for the new you! Understand, you've been through a life-changing experience, and some things might never be the same. Embrace the "new normal" - you're alive, and the rest of your life can be even better than the years you've lived previously. Take stock, see what you want to do, and go for it. Good luck - PJH