One of the hardest things for guys in their experience as a caregiver is what I like to call "giving up the remote control." As the term suggests, it's hard to accept that you no longer can determine what you are watching. This can be a hard pattern to break but one that you must break in order to be an effective caregiver.

I know that it is hard not being in control. Once you come to terms with not being able to fix this, the fact that a loved one is battling breast cancer, things get...