What are some red flags that you may be in the wrong group?
The group leader should be as neutral as possible. If the leader is not, that is a problem. For example, the group should not be engaging in medical opinions, or discussing specific doctors or other health professionals by name. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to recover or get treatment, and the group should not make members feel, in any way, that what they do is wrong or dangerous.
How do you know when it’s time to leave your group?
There’s no set time. It’s an individual choice. You reach a point where it’s not as helpful as it once was. You will know when it feels safe to leave. And there’s really no danger in overstaying.
What’s the best way to find a support group?
Most people come to me through their doctors. Hospital-based support groups are usually very good. Like anything else, you can get recommendations through word of mouth. A good leader doesn’t have to have a specific background: She can be a nurse, a social worker, a survivor. Go to the group a few times and try it out. And trust your instincts. If it doesn’t feel like a safe place for you, don’t stay.
Find support in Breast Cancer Community Connections.
Find the support group sites on the Web.
