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Thursday, October 02, 2008 at 12:57 AMre: Untitled Comment
Bob C.
Saturday, October 04, 2008 at 03:00 PMReply to the young man caregiver---I understand exactly how you feel. What you are going through is perfectly normal. Being mad is one of the difficulties of being a caregiver; this is one of the emotions which will put you on a guilt trip! Try to stop it right now. You are doing the best you can with the time you have available for being a caregiver. It sounds like it is now time for you to put your foot down and DEMAND help from the rest of the family, Just tell them you can't do this alone anymore. If you do not have family, then, it is time to get a network of your mother's friends to step up. And there is also another concept which you can try. Tell your mom, you will visit on specific days, but not every day anymore. You know the things she can handle on her own; let her get used to it gradually. You will be surprised how well she will respond. One last thing I like to suggest to all caregivers is; remember, there is a start to being a caregiver but there will also be an end, be it good or bad. Remember, you must start putting your own health and well being FIRST. Good luck and do the best you can but no more guilt trips. B.C.
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After caring for my dad for 4+ years until he passed now I am caring for my mother post stroke. Although she can live independantly for the most part, she does need help almost every day. Groceries, medicine, making sure she is eating, making sure the house isn't a total wreck. Plus I just worry endlessly about her, waiting for the next thing to happen. While in my thirties and working a lot, I have little to no time for myself for many years. Reading this I sound so selfish, but how do you keep from losing yourself? Most days I am attentive and loving, but some days I find myself so mad at the situation.