mom has alzheimers

this disease is sooooo draing on the family. My mom had it, it began about 7yrs she was ever treated. my family and i had moved away and she went to live with my brother, he had know idea how bad she was, but she had come to stay with us on several occasions, she really wanted to live where she could be with us.  At that time she was going through the stage of extreme anger and paranoia, since she wanted to live with us, I told her the only way was if she lived in assisted living, so she did, I loved my mom so much but I lnow what your going through. 1st it's a disease just like any other but it sure affects the family. this may sound cruel but you have to 1st find help and comfort for you and your family, to understand the illness and the stages, by doing this you will be able to more enjoy your time with her. It's not wrong for you to have to get away from her at times. Please get as much assistance from the alzheimer foundations,meeting,books, and other people. By doing this you will get some rest realize your not a mean person and neither is she, there is so much help, go to the council on aging also, look for local support groups. It just boils down to unforuantly as she gets worse you will too if you don't get help. By the time my mom passed although I had lost the mom I grew up with I learned a new love for a sweet little lady that god had allowed me to learn so much about patients, love and tolerance and the greatest of course was Gods Love. good luck you are in my prayers