HAPPY NEW YEAR!
That is the first thing I want to wish everyone of my new found friends. I know that in one respect we are all the same in that we all take stock in some sort of way before the new year comes in to do its own bidding. For me, this year is going to be a "gentle" take stock because I have gone through so much I think I would get tied down into too many "woulda, coulda, shoulda's" that I would miss the meaning of the exercise. And on the other side I can seek out the more loftier points that would help mankind. (Now that is noble!!)
On that line however, it would be my new year's wish that EVERYONE who needs to find support for all their issues would find a place like this where there is a way to get a grasp on their feelings, make friends with like concerns as theirs, and to get relief from the problems that are making them so crazy inside.
This past year has made me do something I thought I was already doing very well----LISTENING. And boy, was I wrong. I thought I listened to others really well and that I really cared about what others had to say. But I didn't listen to the WHOLE of what was going on. I heard only what was important or missed the picture totally. I learned that listening not only had a verbal process but a non verbal process as well. That's pretty astounding for a person as old as me.
I could hear people who told me they cared or that things would get better. I could hear the doctor telling me the positives and negatives of my issues. I could hear my body say it hurts. But a new hearing I heard this year was "If this...then that!" Not the schoolkid perception of suffering for consequences but a genuine understanding of what helped me and what hindered me. This was in all aspects of my life--my feelings, my pain, my relationships, and my good times. This past year I was able to learn that if I really listened in all areas of my life, the quality of living would be improved.
So in light of this discovery for myself, it is only fitting that the New Year's Resolution should be......"To make 'SELECTIVE HEARING' an exception to the rule, not the rule." I look forward to HEARING you all much better in 2008.
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