Friday, June 01, 2012

New Pet Peeve!

By Denise Coleman Monday, September 07, 2009

I have a new pet peeve!  Don’t go running, I think you may find this interesting. Those of you who have read my previous emails know that I travel around Manhattan using a motorized scooter and am thrilled that I can maintain a good deal of my independence by doing this.  I moved to Manhattan 11 years ago when I could no longer drive because of my deteriorating eyesight and seizure activity; I couldn’t picture living in suburbia where there is no comprehensive public transportation and where I lived we didn’t even have sidewalks on which I could ride my scooter to run local errands.  I love Manhattan and am happy I moved here, and for the most part I take full advantage of the public transportation.

 

I have my issues with the subways because most stations don’t have elevators and many of the existing elevators are quite unreliable.  I use the buses, however it took me a year to convince the powers that be that I needed to practice on a parked bus for about ten minutes so I could calculate where to park my scooter on the ramp and when to begin making the backward, 90 degree turn in the front of the bus to go down the aisle, without taking out the driver or the Metro Card machine, and then back the scooter down the aisle in which the front passengers feet are resting without running over them, and then back my scooter into the designated spot that is about ½ inch longer then my scooter.  Whew, and I must do all this while the driver and/or some passengers are calling out suggestions on what I should be doing and commenting on how long it is taking me to get on the bus and how much they resent the delay in their trip.  It’s a good thing I am patient and have a good sense of humor.

 

I offered to go to a bus depot or the beginning of a bus route to practice on a bus that wasn’t in use for about 10 minutes, but for some unstated reason that was against policy.

I finally got the opportunity to practice and, as I expected, within 10 minutes I had it down pat.  Now I can take the bus, well that model bus anyway, and get where I need to go without anxiety growing inside me from the time I get to the bus stop, and increasing exponentially with each block closer the bus gets to my stop.  There are two other bus models being used in Manhattan but whenever possible I avoid having to use them; I don’t want to repeat the experiences I had on this model before my practice session and I don’t dare suggest I get additional sessions on each model!

 

And so we get to today’s pet peeve.  In keeping with not wanting to use the other model buses, and because it was a beautiful day, sunny yet not too hot, I took my regular bus down 2nd Avenue from East 86th to East 60th, then drove my scooter from 2nd to Madison, where I had a doctor’s appointment.  After my appointment I was meeting a friend for lunch at 41St St. between 7th and 8th Avenue.  It was 11:00 and I had an hour to get to the restaurant so I rode my scooter on 59th Street, from Madison across town to 7th Avenue.  It was a glorious day and I went several blocks just watching the people and window-shopping.  The sidewalks were crowded so I had to be very careful for those individuals who like to walk in front of scooters and stop suddenly, and the groups of people who line up across the sidewalk and either walk very slow or stand there talking and for some reason cannot see me on my scooter or hear me when I call out, “Excuse me, excuse me, please!”  But it was a lovely day and not even that could upset me. 

9/ 9/09 9:32am

hi denise, i can kinda understand what you are going thru, with the corners of the streets, not having cuts,...altho in your situation it is so much more important...when i walk my sweet grandson, and we come to a street and thier are no cuts, well, you know, you start backtrucking to find some...which is all fine,  b u t , i cannot walk that long w/ out my back hinting to me, "that it is time to start getting back" (because if i walk too much , i pay dearly w/ pain for the rest of the day). i am glad thier are nice people to help you and that you have still enough humor within yourself, that you can laugh about the situation!!....was the gentleman nice looking that helped you up? i , so WOULD have planted that big sloppy kiss on him Wink!!...you have such a good attitude about the whole thing...and that is why i have told you before...you are my hero....in this dificult, neverending pain situation, we are all in...keep on writing your uplifting stories, i for one, look forward to reading them..and denise if you ever need to vent, believe me, i am here for you! hugs, cindi....have a wonderful day!!

9/ 9/09 10:27am

Hi Cindi,

Thanks for your comment.  I learned a long time ago that if I lose my sense of humor life will be much more difficult.  In fact, when I hear that someone is going  into the hospital, especially if they have not had much experience in one, I tell them if they check their dignity at the door, but hold on to their sense of humor and they'll do fine. Who can maintain their dignity when nurses are yelling across the room to ask if you'd  had a bowel movement and was it normal, loose or hard.  And just in case someone didn't hear it, they will often then yell it over the intercom to the nurse at the desk. Of course this only happens at visiting hours. And that's just the beginning, don't get me started on hospital gowns.

I am glad you enjoy my writing, Cindi, I get a lot of pleasure in writing and it helps me feel involved and productive.  I am working on a book and hope I am able to find an agent or publisher when I am ready.  I'll let you know how it goes.  

Thanks for the offer of talking to you when I am down, you can't know how much that means to me. I count on everyone involved in Health Central for their wisdom and support and am pleased that you have made a point of telling me I can count on you for friendship, too.  I hope you know that goes both ways, you can always send me a private message if you want to vent.

Have a good day and thanks again for your comment.

Denise

9/ 9/09 10:58am

....and thank you, also, denise, for your offer when i need to vent, i have found 2 good friends on this site and truly they are wonderful (you know who you are Laughing) but it sure would be nice to have others to vent to, i'm sure "my friends" may get tired of it, sometimes :)

yes, please do tell me when you have published your book.....one of the things i have A  L W A Y S wanted to do...is write a childrens book....but i think i will write to you privately, thank you, cindi

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By Denise Coleman— Last Modified: 09/03/10, First Published: 09/07/09