Rebuilding Your Relationships
Who do you relate to the most? If that relationship is solidly built like a house of bricks, then you have no worries. No wind, rain or flood is going to ruin your ability to gain joy, contentment, and value from that bond. But if that relationship is starting to shows signs of aging or weather damage, then the entire structure might seem ready to collapse in a heap of anger, resentment and blame. Now is a good time to inspect all of your relationships and work towards rebuilding them. Once rebuilt, your relationships will be able to withstand all the pressures that life tosses your way.
Start first by inspecting your foundations. Your relationship is built on something. Does it feel stable or unstable? You can’t choose your family that might be riddled with addiction, abuse or some other relationship killer. You can’t choose your body that might be marred by birth defects, mental illness or some other barrier. If you think that your only foundation is that which you cannot choose, then your house is doomed to fail. Underneath is firmer ground if you choose to see it. Relationship footholds are solid, unshakable, and unmovable when you have faith in God.*
Once you have finished working on your foundation, you can then start to inspect the framework of your relationships. Your life is full of supporting friends, family, coworkers, and comrades. At first, you might think that all of these connections are invincible and constant. However, as time goes on, you’ll realize that friends come and go. Acquaintances can become weak or rotten. And then you’ll feel like your world is collapsing around you. In order to prevent you from feeling bad, worthless or abandoned, you need permanent pillars of support within the framework of your life because relationships are constantly changing and shifting. You need pillars of faith. When you choose to have faith in God, faith in yourself, and faith in your god-given blessings, then these sturdy columns supporting your life will not fail you.
But what good are a solid foundation and some framing without a roof? What is your roof made of? If you are one of the many housed underneath a glass ceiling, then your relationships are definitely in trouble. You might be able to see up and view your purpose and your potential; but, you can’t breakthrough because you keep bumping up against the glass ceiling. You might be able to view the entire world; but when the world throws stones, your ceiling will shatter. It’s time for a new roof that will protect you, shelter you and comfort you. It’s time to build something unbreakable and weather-proof. Every day, lay down a shingle of faith. Count your blessings. Be grateful for what you do have. Accept God’s will. And grow a roof-top garden with your “seeds of greatness” that can grow into your full potential.
Now look at your house. All of your relationships are in order and as they should be. Your foundation is solid. Your framework is sturdy. Your roof is unbreakable. And you have just given yourself a gift, your own house built with faith and full of strong relationships.
References worth looking at:
- I Declare: 31 Promises to Speak Over Your Life by Pastor Joel Osteen
- A Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? By Pastor Rick Warren
- Lifeclasses with Oprah; any episode with Joel Osteen, Iyanla Vanzant, Rick Warren, and others.
*The word “God” is used in the universal sense of the word, to refer to a higher-power, spirit or being that you can believe in.