How to Survive and be Happy with multiple Medical Problems

I am new to this site.But I wanted to try and see if other people have the same problems that I do and if so what has worked for them.It seems like all I ever do is going to the doctor,lab work,xrays,surgeries,fixing blundered surgeries.I feel alone in this.I know that our family and friends soon tire of hearing our problems every time we talk to them.I think that we burn them out.And I would probably be tired of hearing about it if it were me.I get tired of telling it.I would like to know if other people have been ostrasized for having to take narcotic medications.I have lost an old friend a daughter and a sister because they think I have a drug problem.Not a medical problem.I am very concervative with my meds and I do have a narcotic contract with my pain mang doctor.I am sick to death of people telling me if I would exercise I wouldn't be sick.Even medical personel do not always know the facts.Doctors long ago were not taught how to treat chronic pain.It is difficult to find a new one and spend years earning their trust only to have them move away and then a new doctor wants you to start way back to what you have already endured 20 years ago.I have become so frustrated defending myself constantly.I have lost all the people who were my support group either by death or their inability to be ambulatory.