A quick hello

By Nicole Tuesday, September 25, 2007

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Just wanted to say hello to all!! I am still here, checking emails and this site as I can. I have been in a great amount of pain lately and chasing a crawling 7 month old around the house (yep, she started crawling last weekend!), so my online time has been put to a minimum now. Eyes in the back of my head would come in handy right about now! Tongue

I am so happy to help all of you who have written to me privately for some support. It makes me feel like all I went through was worth it because now I can (hopefully) make your journey through pregnancy with chronic pain a little less painful and scary. You should be applauded for having the courage to reach out to sites like this for some answers and guidance. You are stronger than you think, and already showing what great moms you are trying to protect them from the moment of conception! I tried and tried when I was pregnant to find some support, and didn't find much, which is why I've made myself available now to those who need it. It's one of the scariest things I've ever gone through, but it all turned out great in the end. We have to stick together in the pain community and support each other. Keep writing, and I'll do my best to help you in whatever way I can.

Hope all of my TMJFriends are doing well. Miss hearing from you.

Have a great day everyone... time for a nap for me before my little one wakes up!

Big Grin

So insulted...

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Susan lic

9/26/07 12:27pm

Congs and is that picture of your baby? From the moment I found out I was going to have a baby I put my child in God's hands and I pray for His protection all around them. May I do the same for you and your baby? God bless you your little bundle of joy.

pauline

9/26/07 4:14pm

Hi Nicole,

I've just joined this site and am trying to get my husband to agree to have a child with me. I am nearly 37 and time is running out. He is anxious I won't cope cause of my chronic back pain and tiredness but I feel empty inside without my own child. Any tips/help?

thanks so much and I hope you are enjoying your wee one!

Pauline

Nicole

9/27/07 1:06pm

Hi Pauline,

I hope your hubby agrees to go for it if that's what you want! I'm sure he's just being very protective. My husband was scared too... he was very uneasy about a lot of things, but also wanted a baby as much as I did. I guess I would just say that know you aren't alone, remind your husband that you aren't the first woman with chronic pain to be pregnant either! I had to keep telling myself that. There are resources out there, just hard to find. In my situation, what made the difference (for my husband too) was the incredible doctors I had. If you have a pain doctor and an OB/GYN who are willing to talk to each other, get the answers you need when they don't know them, be a support system for you and not work against you (so many docs are scared off by pregnancy in pain patients)...then that helps tremendously! If not, then I would try and find a supportive doctor before you get pg. As for your hubby, you will definitely need his support big time... so hopefully you can go into this as a team. Private Message me if you'd like to talk more about this or have any questions maybe I can help with.

I wish you all the best and hope your dream of becoming a mom comes true!! :)

Nicole

pauline

10/ 3/07 12:01pm

Thanks so much for your lovely reply. To be honest things have been pretty rotten. We have had bad rows but I think he is now beginning to see things my way. He has 2 older boys from a previous marriage so he's reluctant to try again. However, I always made it clear that I wanted kids after marriage (3 years ago), but I had an accident which hurt my back. Anyway the obstritrician said I could conceive taking co-dydramol and venlafaxine medication, so God willing!!!

Thanks for your support. Will keep you updated... Unfortunately our PC is breaking down all the time so we might have to buy a new one. I might be delayed in answering your e-mails.

Take care

from

Pauline x

Anonymous

10/30/08 8:01pm

hi nicole,

i don't know if you check this site anymore, but i found it while googling chronic pain and pregnancy. i have multiple spinal fusions and live in pain every day of my life. i have a two year old son and will be having a baby girl in less than three weeks. i would really like to share my experiences with you and possibly hear about some of yours via your personal email address if you are willing. it is hard enough to be in pain every day without feeling judged, scared and guilty because of what others may think. hope to hear from you and take care.

janet

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