All I Want for Mother's Day Is... Pain Relief!
Someone recently Tweeted that what she wanted for Mother's Day was some fibromyalgia relief, a foot massage and some chocolate. That got me to thinking about all of us mothers who live with some type of chronic pain. I suspect that pain relief would be near the top of all of our Mother's Day wish lists.
If I'm going to be honest, though, for me there's another fibromyalgia symptom I'd like relief from that's even higher on my list than pain – heat sensitivity. Fortunately, over the years I've gradually put together a combination of treatments and therapies that help keep my pain at tolerable levels (How I Manage My Chronic Pain). Unfortunately, I've never found anything that eases my extreme sensitivity to heat other than hibernating in an air-conditioned room. Of all of my symptoms, heat sensitivity has been the most life-limiting.
But I digress. This is about Mother's Day wishes. Truthfully, I'm not hard to please. All I really want is for my three children to remember me and tell me they love me, which they always do. They have all grown up to be the kind of adults that I am extremely proud of. And they've given me a grand total of eight grandchildren! What more could any mother ask?!
I can't let Mother's Day go by without remembering my own incredible mother. Even though she passed away 11 years ago, she is still a major influence on my life. In fact, I got my attitude toward Mother's Day gifts from her. She never wanted me to spend much, if any, money on Mother's Day gifts for her because she knew I was struggling to support my own family – she just wanted to be remembered with a card or a phone call. I feel the same way about my children.
Although I wanted to honor my mother's wishes, I also wanted to do more than just give her a card. As a result, I came up with all kinds of creative gifts like a collage of family photos or a poem about what a good mother she was. One year I framed a copy of the poem “When I Am an Old Woman, I Shall Wear Purple” for her because she had always said that her goal was to be an eccentric old woman. That poem hung in her bedroom the rest of her life. Another year I simply made a list titled, “Things My Mother Taught Me” that included everything I could think of – from “Life's not fair” to “Don't wear stripes and plaids together.” I think that list touched her the most.
Now I'd like to hear your thoughts on Mother's Day. What's the best Mother's Day gift you've ever received? What is on your Mother's Day wish list this year? How do you honor your mother on Mother's Day?
And to all of you who are mothers... I wish you a very Happy Mother's Day!