"relations" with my boyfriend

This is a really sensitive issue, and should probably be handled through private messaging (if I can find out how it works!) but if anyone can help, has ideas, etc.

First, I want to say that my boyfriend is a sweetheart and I am very, very lucky to have him in my life. We'd been dating less than a year when these problems started and he's never been anything less than supportive. Besides the medical issues he's an angel in so many other ways. I got lucky when he came around.

My problem is that I feel like I'm not "there" for him in private, know what I mean? As much as he seems okay with it, I'm sure there are times that it's tough for him to deal with. My problem is that I'm afraid I'll do myself more damage. I mean, the whole thing started because of a sneeze. If a sneeze could cause ten years of problems, two operations, then of course I'm a bit nervous about other things!

Does anyone maybe know any ways around this?

Thanks everybody, I know it's a weird question