The Lack of Compassion A Follow Up to My SharePost !!

AMEN!     I found myself lying about how I feel because people don't want to hear about it.  Having been in level8/9 chronic pain for 5 years now, I no longer live. I exist only. When someone ask how I am, I just tell them same as yesterday, or I've been better, or just shrug my shoulders and change the subject.   Because, you know, EVERYONE is an expert on pain and what to do about it, (NOT!)   Listen up people!  Don't you think I have tried everything?

Chrissy

Honey I saw this and had to comment..You know it is sad that there is so much lack of compassion about pain..But, the problem is many feel if they cannot see it it doesn't exist..I say look int he eyes, the step, watch the touch, the flinch. the trimble in the voice..Only those in pain truly understand..A doc says they do but unless that doc walks the same walk-then no they don't..What is the answer-movement, prayer, friends and even what I'm doing right now..Putting it down on paper..Does it take it away..No..Does it help not always..But, it does keepus in contact with others who need someone to listen to..All I can say is I am a newby,I am here and I am a wonderful listener..I come on and off line alot..Bonnie

I don't know why people say, "hi, how are you" or "hey hoya doin" because they really don't realize what they are asking and they surely don't want to hear how you are doing. Even waitresses say that when they greet you. Imagine their horror if you started telling them how you feel. And yes it is true people are too busy with their own selves to listen to you. I have always tried to listen, really listen, when someone is hurting. You can see it in their faces and by listening, maybe I can let them know they aren't alone in their pain.

Thank you for your graciousness and wisdom. While living in constant and intense pain, I have been blessed to discover a greater love within me. I really have had no choice in the matter. Some pain killers give me some relief, but they also quickly become another mechanism of pain. My whole body screams at me from the tinyist cells to the larger organs.It is difficult to find the correct language.We, who suffer on this level, know it is more than our bodies. It is like we are feeling from our human depths to find our divinity, because it becomes our only possible portal to real relief and release. I have learned how pain comes in waves and goes out again, so I can tune into my breath to allow it to flow as it travels through me. A good reason for our inability to find relef in the material world for our suffering is that there is a stronger message being offered to us. Surrender to this message is not yet understood. We are first being led to tru compassion, for ourselves, then others.Not to judge ourselves is the immediate necessity. While we have shame for our pain, we have not yet allowed our own human condition of vulnerability and how our bodys transmit information. I am not the best at this and am continually encountering obstacles to this truth. I feel your pain my brothers and sisters. I am just like you and want relief and a loving face and hand to realize I am worthy of relief and good things.