The Lack of Compassion A Follow Up to My SharePost !!

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It's very sad there is very little compassion in the world. Even among close friends or family! If it doesn't revolve around them, there's no compassion,listening or even concern. Then there's the false compassion. Sincerely asking" how you are feeling" as you begin to speak, eyes drift over your head listening to others talking! What's the point people??? Stop it!! We're in Pain...we're not stupid!!

November 11, 2009

Strange thing happened after I posted this Blog about the Lack of Compassion.

I want to thank all who responded to this also. It makes you realize all is not just

happening to you and you're not isolated on an island by yourself after all.

The strange thing that happened after I wrote this, was like what I call a "God Incidence"

I know we don't all share the same beliefs, but we can all appreciate that there is something much bigger than ourselves watching out for us, I hope. Well, with that thought, I would like to share with you what happened several days after I wrote that sharepost. Each day I read from daily readings book (not mentioning the title). This book is meant to inspire and guide and comfort the person who is reading it. The author of the day wrote about compassion and how little of it we find here on earth. They began to remind me that I was looking in all the wrong places and that the only true

and real compassion comes from our Father in heaven who made the greatest act of compassion anyone ever could. If we only realize that True compassion and try to reflect on that, we might find ourselves having more compassion for others even in our

great state of Pain. We may spread that feeling that is often so lacking and seldom found here on earth in our daily lives. We may also begin to recognize compassion in a way we had never done before among others. Our eyes may opened to others needs and also others compassion where we hadn't seen it before or even looked.

I felt I needed to share this with all those who read my previous blog, because it did help me in some ways and gave me more peace with the subject. It is not meant to belittle

the pain that we endure or to make excuses for those who have blinders on to those around them who are in pain. It was just something that happened to give me some solace knowing that there is compassion out there, we just sometimes expect and look for it in all the wrong places and that compassion can also grow when it starts with ourselves toward others. Thanks for listening.

ladibugcrazi

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Anonymous

10/19/09 2:41pm

AMEN! I found myself lying about how I feel because people don't want to hear about it. Having been in level8/9 chronic pain for 5 years now, I no longer live. I exist only. When someone ask how I am, I just tell them same as yesterday, or I've been better, or just shrug my shoulders and change the subject. Because, you know, EVERYONE is an expert on pain and what to do about it, (NOT!) Listen up people! Don't you think I have tried everything?

Chrissy

Bonnie Girl

10/19/09 3:10pm

Honey I saw this and had to comment..You know it is sad that there is so much lack of compassion about pain..But, the problem is many feel if they cannot see it it doesn't exist..I say look int he eyes, the step, watch the touch, the flinch. the trimble in the voice..Only those in pain truly understand..A doc says they do but unless that doc walks the same walk-then no they don't..What is the answer-movement, prayer, friends and even what I'm doing right now..Putting it down on paper..Does it take it away..No..Does it help not always..But, it does keepus in contact with others who need someone to listen to..All I can say is I am a newby,I am here and I am a wonderful listener..I come on and off line alot..Bonnie

joanna

10/25/09 6:02am

I don't know why people say, "hi, how are you" or "hey hoya doin" because they really don't realize what they are asking and they surely don't want to hear how you are doing. Even waitresses say that when they greet you. Imagine their horror if you started telling them how you feel. And yes it is true people are too busy with their own selves to listen to you. I have always tried to listen, really listen, when someone is hurting. You can see it in their faces and by listening, maybe I can let them know they aren't alone in their pain.

natasha

11/12/09 3:17pm

Thank you for your graciousness and wisdom. While living in constant and intense pain, I have been blessed to discover a greater love within me. I really have had no choice in the matter. Some pain killers give me some relief, but they also quickly become another mechanism of pain. My whole body screams at me from the tinyist cells to the larger organs.It is difficult to find the correct language.We, who suffer on this level, know it is more than our bodies. It is like we are feeling from our human depths to find our divinity, because it becomes our only possible portal to real relief and release. I have learned how pain comes in waves and goes out again, so I can tune into my breath to allow it to flow as it travels through me. A good reason for our inability to find relef in the material world for our suffering is that there is a stronger message being offered to us. Surrender to this message is not yet understood. We are first being led to tru compassion, for ourselves, then others.Not to judge ourselves is the immediate necessity. While we have shame for our pain, we have not yet allowed our own human condition of vulnerability and how our bodys transmit information. I am not the best at this and am continually encountering obstacles to this truth. I feel your pain my brothers and sisters. I am just like you and want relief and a loving face and hand to realize I am worthy of relief and good things.

ladibugcrazi

11/15/09 11:13am

Thanks Natasha; that was a wonderful response, I couldn't agree with you more. Pain has been a Great Teacher in my life also, what a waste it would be if we didn't learn something through all of this that we struggle with, right? It's best to use our situation for the better I guess. Learning about so many things, that never even crossed our minds before our lives changed so drastically!

You know its kind of funny also, that my interests have changed dramatically also since I live with Chronic Pain, mostly at an average of 7-10 each day. I've started hungering for learning more History and learning more Geography and also Science. These are subjects I failed in jr. high and struggled with in high school and college. Now, I can't seem to get enough of it daily. The only problem is that I don't retain the information as well as I would like, you know? That fibro fog and getting older can take the blame for that. I use to have a very good memory, especially with numbers, names, and dates. Now, I'm fortunate if I remember my age and my the ages of my children, (now in their mid 20's) ! Good thing they I know I love them to death, huh? They are alot more forgiving to me than I ever was to my own Mom...

But, I also lived a much more troubled childhood than they did too.

Anyway, it was nice to read your response, I hope to hear more of your thoughts again, it was very enlightening and pleasant to read..

Take Care and Have more Better Days than Bad ones!!!

Gail aka: ladibugcrazi

Guido

12/ 4/09 12:40pm

I read your comment on God like intervention, you are so right. When I'm up to it, or can muster the will power to help others or visit my Grandmother in a care center, she is 99, I can't but help but think of others and their problems, and want to help, it takes me out of myself and self pity right away, that's such a positive attitude, so many people out there have it sooo much worse than I do, who am I to complain. I do believe in God, a higher power, and it's hard to stay in that mode when you don't feel good. But you made a great point, if one can take themselves out of their world of misery, body and mind, and look towards helping and comforting others, that's God helping you help yourself.

God bless you.

Guido

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