I've been alone for 5 years, and hate it tremendously. I have found, when I was around someone I really cared about and who cared for me, that the pain lessened. I've heard it is because of endorphin release. Do you believe that being in a good relationship helps? Do you believe that people who share (both endure pain) would make good companions, and is there any way for those of us who feel this way to find each other?
I've been trying so hard to find someone to share my life with, but as soon as they catch on to the pain I suffer, they drift away (if they are as kind as I
thought they were) or run, if they are not. Sometimes I think I must be out of my mind to even continue trying to find a companion. How do you feel?
Thanks,
Dean Allen
Signal Hill, California
I totally agree. My friends are fit and working too, and can walk around art galleries without a) having to sit down all the time, b) having to have a drink of water c) feeling physically dizzy and emotionally anxious around a lot of people. Yet I enjoy art and film and music (just seen leonard cohen-amazing!) only someone in a similar position can really understand all the complexities. My ex does care, but gets annoyed that I don't want to drink alcohol with him or sit in boring pubs (a british thing) I am a struggling 3rd year psychology student, sleeping sometimes 18 hours a day, diabetic yet forget to eat, forget meds, yet try, try, try to keep going, just as we must. Don't believe in any traditional gods or goddesses but do believe in the power of love. So yes, someone is just around the corner, for us all. Don't give up. Cheryl.