Until two years ago I straddled both sides of the fence. I don't know which side is worse. My late husband and I both had chronic pain. I still do. He had a work related back injury and then five years later I got injuried falling down the stairs. It's tough watching someone you care about hurting all of the time. Of coarse I didn't realize how bad he had it until I was also living with it myself. Our relationship totally fell apart. It probably would have anyway without the pain. We'll never know for sure. Three days before our divorce would have been final he commited suicide. I'll never know exactly why he did it. Was it the pain? Was it the divorce? Or was it something entirely different? I hope it's not very common to have both partners in a marriage suffering from chronic pain. One is more than enough. It's hard to be there for your partner when you hurt as bad as they do. I think I will probably stay single.



I am sorry for your loss. I am recently experiencing changes in my marriage due to BOTH of us now having pain and other health issues. I feel as if he doesn't care anymore, has become very self centered. I am afraid he is becoming depressed, which he will NEVER admit to and thus get help for. A once companionable life has become strained and uneasy. No fun anymore. I hope something will happen to turn this around so we don't have the tragic ending you have had to live with. Thank you for posting your very private issue and sharing with us.