1. I am someone who loves to help others. It is very difficult for me however to ask others for help, yet this is something I've had to learn to do.
2. I hate conflict & generally feel like a burdon to my family & they get grumpy doing what they feel like I should be doing, after all- I'm in bed a LOT, how could I be tired? I don't do much (ok I don't do any) exercisiing. Why should they have to help-they've had full & exhausting days, so things mound up until I have the energy to do them.
3. Everyone else in the family feels like they are doing everything & I am doing nothing.
Results: My husband finally had it with everything & left me & the kids: 8, 7 & 4 1/2. My 18 yr old son is leaving for college in 1 week. My 17 yr old daughter resents me / hates me, I'm told this is a normal teen girl thing but I still feel impossibly responsible somehow.
So, I'm all alone, dependant on human services & waiting for my ssd/ssi hearing.
The good that's come of this is that I am learning I can do a bit more than I was, despite the pain, because I have to, there is no one else to help me & I don't want my children to suffer more than they are. I even now kill my own spiders & reach things perched up high. It is sad that I'm sure I'm just 1 in a myriad of family statistics who are being destroyed (families destroyed I mean) due to chronic illness.
Life with fibro sucks. I am sorry for your condition. Too bad we don't bleed or have loose an arm or the head. Oh yeah that one is somewhere around but can't find it.....
The best thing for you is to find a support group on line or in real life. We need others like us to continue. I am lucky, hubby is a rare specimen and still stick by me. I wish it could be like that for everyones.
Daughter in teens crisis ? What's new under the sun. Mine told me once that I was the worst and meanest mother around for miles and she hated me , I did not let her date boys. Now after 20 years I suddenly became the best mom around, go figure !!.
Take care of yourself, that is the most important for you know and your family.
Don't feel guilty it's not your fault, you just picked a bad card in the game of life, but it's time to stop gambling and play the good card. Good luck.
Marie