too young to be in so much pain

I have chronic jaw pain that leads to headaches and eye aches, and neck and shoulder pain----sometimes not able to wash my own darn dishes!! But I hear you, I've wondered about having kids, how? I take klonopin and can't live without it.

Ask your doctor and no matter what, with your problem, I suggest Cesarian section so they can basically put you to sleep and cut the baby out, small scar near pubic hair---no laborious pushing out the baby which will upset your condition.

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Hey to both of you, so sorry you are stuck in pain at young age, i have been there & still there.My first PG at 18 set off my sciatica,& forever more it has been on & off ever since.Then age 39 did break back,so more added on.As for maggiemae,i feel that your question was more about taking meds during PG vs. your back,is that correct?It seems like this pain is going to be around for some time,has your doc's discussed implanted nerve stim?Implanted pain pump?The nerve stim has no meds involved & pain pump does not cross blood brain barrier,so could ask doc's if cross placenta.Most women don't even like taking tylenol while PG so i understand your hesitation,ask your doc.As far as your back,yes,have C-sect instead of pushing would definately help,during PG not gaining too much weight,(i gained way too much),i ended crying everyday by the end of PG due to pain in lower back.One thing that did help is chiropractor,he would of course need to know about your surgery,also wearing belly band helped support my belly & take pressure off back.It is truly hard to do,the PG,if you are already in pain but i know the urge to precreate is strong,look how many couples are paying big bucks for invitro.I urge you to warn your hubby beforehand how you may turn into an evil woman w/child.I hope you are able to work out the meds & back pain issue so you can have a child,good luck.Jawpainnyc,has your doc looked into Myobloc for your jaw pain?They often give it for people w/neck spasms & migraines.It is a weak form of botox & relaxes the muscles.I get it into my upper back for myofascial pain syndrome,most doc's don't know what this is & it took me awhile to find a doc that gave the Myobloc.Thank God that i found one i was ready to put myself into the aterlife,the pain was sooo bad i could not stand it.I have had i think about 5 injections since 3/2006.You have to find a doc that does trigger point injections they should be able to help you.I live in a state w/o a lot of newer doc's so it was hard to find,my insurance did not pay for it,but guess what,it was $1200. or my life,what would you pick?OK i am done,this is killing my whole body today.Good luck again.

Hi there,

Sorry to hear you are in so much pain. I too had to deal with medications during a pregnancy. I have no doubt that you dr. will be able to provide medications that don't effect a fetus, calling it that just because of terminology. There are meds out there that don't get asborbed into the babies blood line. But that does not mean it won't effect you.

I too have chronic pain, but that all disappeared FOR ME when i was pregnant. But and a big but the pain i experienced after no longer being pregnant was unbearable. So, thinking of this you have to decided whether or not to breast feed.

If you decide not to breastfeed because you are in pain they don't give out any medications to stop the pain you will experience from not nursing. I know this sounds crazy, but the only remedy for that is raw cabbage placed over your breast until your brain says no more milk is to be made. And trust me it works and you won't leave the house without your cabbage.

There are also high risk ob drs who you can consult with.

YOu will also be surprised that being a mother can make you forget about your own body and that your love for your child will come first and all of a sudden you are superwoman and nothing will stop you from taking care of your child.

Good luck to you. lisa

I too have had not only one surgery on my back but two!  If I had to do it all over again I would NOT have agreed to the second one as it was a complete failier and left me in MORE PAIN and even MORE disabled then I was before!

As for your concern about pain meds and becoming pregnant,.....I have always wanted to be a mother and have a family I can call my own as I never had one (grew up in childrens aid) so having children was VERY important to me!  I worked very hard on gaining an education and obtaining a sucessful career took me to the age of 27 and is when I had my accident at work.  I had to have surgery immediately to relieve the pressure off my nerve from a herniated disc.  After my operation I was devastated when the Drs said I could NEVER have kids as I was left disabled and in daily, chronic pain.  I asked what would be the worst that would happen IF I did become pregnant?  The Drs said since I could barely handle the daily, chronic pain I was already in, I would never be able to handle the extra pain normal woman get with just being pregnant.  I went home in tears and spent many days and nites thinking how important it was for me to have children of my own and thought of many ways I could eleviate the extra pain the pregnacy would bring.

I am VERY happy to say I am a PROUD mother of not only 1 but 3 beautiful children who give me the strength to keep going each day!  I can honestly say Im SURE if it wasnt for my 3 wonderful gifts from God, I probably would have given up years ago!

Now, Im not  saying getting pregnant is right choice for YOU but that I just wanted to share my story with you since you are in a situation I once was.  Everyone is different, you need to work out YOUR 'pros and cons' to becoming pregnant but I will encourage you to do 1 thing!  SEARCH AND RESEARCH BEING PREGNANT AND BEING ON PAIN MEDS!!  My 3rd child was born addicted to the pain meds I was on during that pregnacy even though the Dr. who was so called looking after me at that time said it was safe for my unborn baby and better for myself to stay on and continue taking my meds.  I am happy to say she is now a very happy and healthy 8 yr old but I still, to this day feel awfully guilty that the 1st few weeks of her life were not pleasant to say the least even though I have been told over and over again it was not my fault as the Dr. was the one who I put my trust in and was suppost to be knowledgable regarding this.

Good Luck with whatever choice you make

Take Care and God Bless!

A VERY Blessed Mommy of 3  :)

Please don't take the wrong way, I can only imagine how scary having a baby would be with the kind of pain your are in at this time.

It's just that the phrase, "I'm too young to be in so much pain" always makes me cringe. At what age is it acceptable to be in pain that severe? Just because we may have gray hair and wrinkles doesn't mean that our lives are any less valuable or that our bodies hurt less because we are older. We still love and want to be able to show that love without crying out in pain when a little 2 year old jumps on your lap and says, "Nanny, I love you!"

If you make the decision to have a baby, remember that almost all pain meds are going to affect that tiny little being inside you.  I would definately speak to an ob/ gyn specialist and see what, if any, pain meds will not harm the fetus. Back in the 70s when my generation was having babies, there was a group of doctors who stressed the damage they thought that any medication given while the mom was in labor could cause problems if the baby had weak lungs and lists other reasons for 'natural'  childbirth.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the very, very best of luck. Next time, though, when you're thinking about how unfair it is to be in so much pain at such a young age, just give a tiny thought about how much your new baby will learn, and how much love granny can give to your newborn.

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