Hi Susan,
Please look on-line for a support group for the pain and depression, also for caregivers of Alzheimers patients. There are so many out there. I belong to a support group for my nerve problem and my life is SO different now!! There is help out there. There are groups who have 24/7 chat rooms open, you can write in a blog and people respond~positively, you can respond to their blogs as well, positive feedback can be hard to find when you are in pain, have depression and a father with Alzheimers. The groups sometimes have Q&A and if you can answer a question for someone and help them, that in itself can help YOU feel better, on the other hand, if you have a question and someone has experienced it and can help you feel "not so alone", that helps too. The groups don't focus on the negative 100% of the time, you can blog about life in general and get good feedback. It's really worth looking for the right group for you!! I hope this helps~I have depression also and it's hard to make that first step, but others with depression really "get it". I hope this helps you!! Take Good Care!!!