I don't even know where to start...but I can tell you that I'm at the end of my rope and very frustrated with my situation right now. I am 41 years old and since late June (6 months now), I have not had a pain-free day. When I first had the pain, I just KNEW it was the flu as I've had it before. The flu muscle aches are hard to forget. I only ran a low grade fever, but still went to the doctor for a flu test. It was negative. After a few weeks of continued pain, off and on low grade fever (between 99 and 100.5) and general malaise, I went back to the doctor and had blood work done. Everything was normal. Long story short...I've been to a rheumatologist, infectious disease specialist, and a vascular surgeon. Tons of blood tests have been done and we have no diagnosis...except for Raynaud's--which I already knew I had and doesn't explain my pain. The pain is horrible and mostly in my arms and legs...sometimes in my fingers and toes. I also have a weird itchy, red, flaky rash around one of my eyes now. I get the low grade fever about twice a month. My family doctor says it's stress and I need to try to be happy. My husband says I'm becoming a bore and believes it's all in my head. I don't know what to do. I'm tired of hurting. It's really affecting my quality of life. I can't be the mom or wife I want to be while feeling this bad.
Like Cort, fibromyalgia was the first thing I thought of, too. In fact, FM is often described as feeling like you have the flu all the time.
You sound so much like me. I was a year younger than you when I began having similar symptoms. For seven years doctors told me it was stress and/or I was "just getting older." Back then very few doctors knew anything about fibromyalgia. Although we still have a way to go, things have improved significantly since then.
Here's a link to lots of information on FM: Fibromyalgia
I'd suggest reading through the basic articles. If you think that sounds like what's going on with you, try to find a doctor who has experience in treating FM. In the past two years, three medications have been approved for treating FM, so there are more options available than ever before.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope you're able to get an accurate diagnosis soon.
Have you it checked for fibromyalgia? FM is associated with body wide pain, can be triggered by the flu and doesn't show up on laboratory tests - since there is no marker for it. It doesn't always respond to traditional pain medications either. If you've gone through the wringer and nothing shows up yet you're still in pain see if you can find a Dr. who is knowledgeable in fibromyalgia.
Just being in pain causes increased stress and anxiety which in turn feeds on the pain and stress. Relaxation exercises can actually be quite helpful with pain. You might want to try a mindfulness-based stress reduction course (MBSR). They were developed for people in pain and they can be found in many areas.