• I Need Help RE: Permanent Chronic Pain + Nerve Damage, pain meds, treatments, spinal injuries, DRs

    Please read my following questions about my serious chronic medical conditions, because you are honestly my final and only hope in helping me answer questions or give information to help treat my medical problems that have ruined my life. You are my last hope, as my life is constant torture and it has left me with nothing and no life or hope or direction and you may be able to help me improve my life and find meaning and joy again. If we get a dialogue going I will use it to help others with info you can provide.









    The following questions should relate to these types of ailments, injuries, etc, as these are what I am suffering from. Can you provide information or at least help direct me to resources that may help or lead me to finally treating my current conditions which are all somehow connected and getting worse.


    ·      Neck/Spine injuries (such as disc problems, stenosis)

    ·      Extreme, full and life long back pain characterized by full muscle back pain and spasms only getting worse

    ·      Chronic, severe, permanent nerve damage and pain (for me my neck hurts and sends pain down and throughout my shoulders and arms to my hands which tingle and go numb). This has gotten worse sine surgery meant to fix it and has spread

    ·      Shoulder injuries (I have two torn shoulders with partially dislocation)

    ·      Pain management including Narcotic and non narcotic pain treatments or any other potentially helpful treatment methods or modalities

    ·      Physical Rehabilitation

    ·      Post Surgical rehabilitation and damages from surgery




    I am 28 and living in a life of medical problem that have ruined my life and cause me to spend 22 hours a day in bed for the past two years, I live in Massachusetts and am looking for names or types of doctors, treatments programs, specialties or clinics anywhere in MA or in nearby New Hampshire or Rhode Island.  EVEN IF YOU DON’T LIVE NEAR HERE OR KNOW OF ANY DOCTORS OR TREATMENT CENTERS IN THE AREA, YOUR INPUT WILL STILL BE INVALUABLE.






    ·      Do you have info on different types of doctors from various medical fields, specialties or fields of focus that may help., as well as well as any medical groups, programs or practices that may be relevant to my situation


    ·      Do you know of medical treatments (such as medications, physical therapy, post surgical rehab etc, pain management) or other treatments that can help even those that may be rarely used because they are new, expensive, old, often passed by, but offer new and different benefit and may help.


    ·      Can you let me know of any Exams, Studies or Diagnostic Tests (such as images and  every type of other relevant tests that might help) that are rarely used due to being either too new and thus not widely used or understood. As well as those deemed too old or expensive. Especially those that can provide more info on my case but are two often ignored by doctors.


    ·      Does anyone know of any Massachusetts, NH or RI  doctors or clinics that treat chronic pain with narcotics and are willing to work with the patient to find the proper combinations of pain meds and any other non-narcotics that will work? I am looking for someone to treat me with heavy pain meds for a while as my pain is permanent and chronic, but also work to find other medications and treatments that will eventually allow me to get off the narcotics My current doctor does not mind prescribing me the pain narcotics, but won’t  try different combinations to see if they work better than the morphine and fentanyl I am on currently and for the past two years.


    ·      What suggestions do you have and any hints of what I can do, buy, take, etc to treat the pain and help the nerve damage?


    ·      Also know of any good doctors or clinics/groups that offer physical therapy for someone with chronic pain and nerve damage? I have been unable to do physical therapy or even any activity for a year and a half due to doctors orders and I need a physical therapist that will help build up my whole body and muscle system as these are weakened and so out of shape I need to rebuild my whole body




    3 months ago I had surgery on my cervical spine in my neck due to c5 stenosis. The purpose was to relieve extreme and diagnosed as chronic and permanent pain and nerve problems that shoot down from my neck throughout my right arm and hands which causes numbness and tingling. Now I have the same problem with my left arm and hand which began after surgery Due to having to suffer with this for a year and a half, I have been so inactive on doctors orders that I have extreme muscle problems and pain that cause spasms and my two shoulders are partially dislocated and have torn labrums due to overcompensating for my neck injury. My whole body is out of shape and all muscles in back hurt and need lots of help and medical treatment/rehabilitation.


    I have tried physical therapy and nerve block shots and they do not work. Also, I have tried all non-narcotic meds and they do not work, such as neurontin and lycodain. I am told surgery is a possibility, but due to the enormity problems created by my recent surgery the  doctors think that surgery would be too risky so they said that I would have to live with chronic pain and severe nerve damage forever. So far they can only treat me with extreme amounts of narcotics such as morphine and fentanyl and that can’t go on forever.







    BTW feel free to ask me any questions






  • Karen Lee Richards
    Health Guide
    August 26, 2008
    Karen Lee Richards
    Health Guide
    August 26, 2008

    In 2003 Good Housekeeping magazine published a list of the top 35 pain centers in the U.S.  Two of them are in Boston.  Here is the info they gave on those two:


    Massachusetts General Hospital/MGH Pain Center

    55 Fruit St.

    Boston, MA  02114


    Areas of Expertise:  Acute pain; cancer pain; chronic pain; facial pain; headache pain

    A Top Doc:  Martin A Acquadro, MD, DMD


    Tufts-New England Medical Center/Pain Management Program

    750 Washington St.

    Boston, MA  02111


    Areas of Expertise:  Acute pain; cancer pain; chronic pain

    A Top Doc:  Daniel B. Carr, MD


    If neither of these work out, you might try looking for a physiatrist in your area.  They specialize in physical medicine and rehabilitation and are excellent when it comes to treating pain.  If you're not familiar with what a physiatrist does, check out this site:  http://www.aapmr.org/condtreat/what.htm


    As you said, with all of your pain problems you absolutely need a good pain doctor who will work with you on managing your pain until you find the best combination of pain treatments for you.  Ideally he will coordinate your pain management team which would probably include a physical therapist as well as possibly some complementary treatment specialists (i.e., massage therapist, acupuncturist, etc.) Note:  Physiatrists are well-known for doing this.


    I don't know if you've ever discussed these with a doctor before, but you might want to ask about a pain medication pump or a neurostiumlator as possible options for pain control. 


    As for alternative or complementary therapies, myofascial release therapy as well as some forms of massage can be very good for relieving muscle spasms.  Also, I understand that a really good acupuncturist can often do a lot with pain.  I've even heard of surgeries performed using no anesthesia – only acupuncture.  Be sure to talk with your doctor about any alternative therapies you want to try. 


    I hope at least some of this is helpful.  Of course, we can't diagnose or treat online, but I hope we've been able to guide you to someone who can help you. 


  • monique March 20, 2009
    March 20, 2009

    This is not an answer.  I just wanted you to know that I'm living with the same problem plus my nerve damage causes both legs and arms to tremor.  I was talking to my doctor today because the pain management doctor said there wasn't anyting else he could do for me.  I had the shots in my neck that didn't work and I can't get anymore of those the only suggestion is surgery and I refuse because that usually makes it worst so my doctor suggeted accupuncture along with the pain medicine.  I'm going to try it and I'll let you know how it works out for me.

  • Bianca February 05, 2009
    February 05, 2009

    I am 25 years old and have been suffering from chronic pain since i was 16 years old. I just want everyone who sees this to know that if narcotics arent working for you then do WHATEVER it takes to see a great nerve doctor like the ones that I saw at Brigham and womens hospitol in Boston, Ma. I saw a few neurolological people before going there and they were the doctors that finally found out what my problem is. I was immobile and scared...Im you are too become proactive. I am now almost without insurance because i was misdiognosed for so long...and everyone was saying i was crazy. Dont let them discourage you keep fighting for yourself!

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  • Hopefull February 23, 2009
    February 23, 2009

    I hope that this message is late and that you have found relief. 


    However, I also suffer from neck/ shoulder pain on a daily basis and so I suspect you might still be hurting.    So I was searching the internet for alternatives as I've had 3 surgurgies which I would say has put me back to exactly where I was before the surguries.  Anyway! I came across a website from Cornell University hospital in New York.  Unfortunately, I live in Wisconsin so for me wasnt an option.  Have you checked out them for help?  Their website showed that they have a pain management clinic.  They might be able to help you.  Well Take Care! 


    Stay hopeful.  As difficult as that is.

  • Red
    January 04, 2010
    January 04, 2010


    Just a comment...I am so very sorry to hear of your pain.. I am new as of this evening to this site and I am happy to have come across it. I have a good feeling about it. If anything for support measures. 


    I have been recently told about a baclofen pain pump. You may want to see if this is an option for you. Neuro Ortho Pain Management Surgeons do this procedure.


    Keep your chin up Joe, I wrote a very long respons to Roses letter, if you want to learn a bit more about me, feel free to read it.


    Anyone that suffers pain like we do certainly knows how you feel. It is debilitating not to mention depressing.....Best of luck Joe....



  • rosebud December 01, 2009
    December 01, 2009

    My name is Rose, I have been a chronic pain patient for twelve years.  I have what is classified as hypo nerve sensitivity, (over reactive Nerves).  My pain is located primarily at the T8-T10 spine, (approximately the bra line, or where the bra wraps around & fastens).  I first got hurt falling in an elevator. Through MRI's it was noticed that I had something dense pushing on my spinal cord and flatten it, later it is believed that I have a calcium growth at the T8 area that is internal instead of like the other external calcium growths on my spine. This was believed to be causing the high pain level I was experiencing in my upper back, priimarily on my left side and left arm. pain radiated down to the nerve located near where one's "funny bone", and pain would raidiate up my neck causing extreme head aches at the top of my head, pain also at times (not constant) would radiate down my back into my left leg causing randomly unbealivable sudden pain where it hurt so quick and sudden I would fall down unable to hold my weight.  I for the first two years saw a couple of pain doctors who provided the class II narcortics, one in fact being over generious of his treatment where I was prescribed multiple pain meds at once (ie, oxycotin, oxycodone, fintanol suckers, derogesic patch plus wanted me to agree to move forward to having a DPS Pump surgically implanated, also known as a pain pump that would continiuelly inject meds directly into my spinal cord.  For me this was not a reasonable option due to knowing that there would be monthly appointments to refill pump, which by the way is administered only through a certified doctor so there was the inconvience of limited availability so if I ever moved, etc. Then the fact that every 3-5 years would have to have a surgery to replace pump when battery ran out; being a person prone to adheasions (I have had 19 surgeries) wasn't a good option for me as well as after reviewing information my husband & I decided to not  agree at that point for we saw the DPS Pump usage as a last resort.  Needless to say this Dr. felt he could no longer treat me and immediately stopped including refusing to refill meds so I was forced to stop cold turkey.  That is an experience I never want to endure again.  DO not let a doctor put you in a position to stop class II narcotic cold turkey they should wean you down.  Okay so then I learned that there is a significant difference between pain doctors & pain management doctors.  The main difference is their treatment idealism.  Pain doctors prescribe pain med, pain management doctors are doctors who are specialized in treating chronic pain patients.  They provide treatment throught managing your chronic pain with working with a team of medical providers of different expertise, (ie, psychotheripists who specialize in chronic pain, bio-feedback specialist, a variety of physical therapists who each have different methods from aqua-therapy in a therapudic pool, deep tissue physical therapy, yoga based physical therapy, one who works with your feet, etc. then you have a life skills coordinator who teaches you life skills now as a chronic pain person.  The point is that you work with a team of individuals whose goal is to manage your chronic pain.  Their belief is that each patient is different so they treat you as an individual vs the "cookie cutter" fix, (one way for all).  When I went to my first appointment with this pain management doctor he first review my file with his team who each specialized in a particular course of study that was like a piece of the puzzle to manage a chronic pain patient's pain.  After review and a consenus that it was believed they could help I was accepted into their 6 wk outpatient pain program.  Yeah, I wasn't very receptive to the idea of 6wks either.  I didn't believe that there was any way possible I was going to be able to endure 6 wks M-F 8am-4pm in their pain management program.  Remember I was in pain so severe I was in bed 5 days or more out of a week.  The idea that I could actively do this program 5 days a week 8 hrs a day was beyond my belief.  This doctor made it clear that I was required to attend every day for 8 hrs for him to accept and treat me.  Needless to say I was very angry (scared) at the idea of his requirements.  I believe I even share a few exerts that I should not have and I believe any other medical professional would of kicked me out of his office yet this doctor remained very calm and allowed me to express my apprehensions.  After I finished he assured me that his team was there for me and what better place to be than at the hospital/clinic when in pain.  He assured me that if my pain level became unbearable to where I could not sit he would provide a bed as well as manage my pain.  I relectantly agreed and began the 6 wk program.  I am so glad I did.  At first I wasn't the most positive patient, in fact I shamely admit I was an administrative nightmare, (though the team says I was not a problem child).  My pain management doctors first action was to place me back on a low dose of oxycotin, with nerve blocks.  Having had my previous experience of being prescribed a high dose of pain meds, and neurotin I had concerns due to being put on these meds I got not relief from neurotin when prescribed it by itself, and I was abruptly stopped given oxycotin and had to endure a month of hell where all I wanted to do for two of those days was kill myself.  This doctor so patiently addressed my concerns and assurred me he would not drop me cold turkey off meds nor would he "fire" me as a patient.  He calmly stated, "All I ask is a lot.  I ask that you trust me and allow me to try and help by keeping an open mind to everything we present to you and you give it a try."  I was so desperate that I agreed for I knew how difficult it was to even find a doctor who is willing to prescribe pain med.  What I learned in this 6 wk program is the most vital information I ever have received infact knowing what I know from this 6 wk outpatient program I highly encourage every pain patient I speak to to find a pain patient program in their area.  I believe half the battle is finding support.  In this program I not only had a doctors support, I had psychological support, emotional support, physical support, and medication support!  I learned that with nerve pain one nerve block med didn't work too well but when you covered the whole neurological messaging pathway (taking neurotin, clodine, and baclofen together along with a low dose of oxycotin & oxycodone (for break through pain) along with some low impact physical therapy, counseling for handleing the mental stress and fatigue of being always in pain, learning new ways of managing my dailly routine for hygene, household chores etc gave me an improvement of life.  I learned that I will never be back to where I was before getting chronic pain but I can manage it verses my pain level managing me.  I also learned that there are medical professionals out there that can help and help comes faster and more accurate if they communicate and work together managed by a point of contact (ie pain management doctor) who is able to communicate and keep your primary care physican updated.  Wow it truly works.  Don't hear me wrong, I still am suffering from chronic pain.  I still have bad days, just not nearly the amount that I had prior.  I also am able to believe that I am closer to getting a portion of my life back and those of us who have continued to suffer with pain and not having been given the information and support like I received from my pain management doctor and his team of medical professionals would almost be willing to sell their soul.  You don't have to.  In fact I have yet to meet a chronic pain patient who was seen and treated in a similiar outpatient program who didn't find improvement.  It amazed me the first day all of us in the program hated being there.  On the last week the mood of the class began to show our concerns of the program ending and the fear of not having that daily support that we received in the program. On the last day there wasn't one of us patients who was in the program that didn't wish it was longer.  What I liked was the number in the program was small, this particular program had a maximum of 14 patients, so there was a wait time before my 6 wk outpatient program began, but until I started my pain management doctor saw me and took care of my prescription needs.  Like I said I still suffer in pain but learning how to manage my condition has inceased my level of activity where I am no longer in bed more than I am out of bed. I believe the reason this 6 wk outpatient program works or helps to improve the life of chronic pain patients is because it addresses all fassets(physical, emotional, psychological, medication needs, educating loved ones and yourself) of coping with chronic pain,  Best of luck to you. Rose Smile

    • Red
      January 04, 2010
      January 04, 2010

      Hi Rose,

      I am completely floored right now having read your post as it is so like what I have been facing since 1989. After 5 years of going to every type of doctor practicing medicine as well as Chiropractics.  I was referred to my first PS for oxipital neurolgia. One injection with a 6 inch needle. To my amazement, it worked for a very long time.


      However, the mid and low back facet nerve blocks didnt. At that time I didn't know much about pain management doctors either. Of course, back to doctor upon doctor


      To no avail,  I was told to go to a PS, I went to a Pain Specialist several years ago for my chronic pain. At that time, I did  not know about pain mgmt clinics. I went to him for about a year he finally said he could no longer help me and my pain after I passed out when he was giving me an injection into my neck . To say the least, it was very frustrating and certainly depressing. I did continue to see him after my first surgery in 2005 hoping with the fusion done, he would be able to help.. Nope!


      Suffereing even more within 3 months post op ( L 3-4-5) the surgeon said the hardware fell apart in my back and we needed to take it out. It was just short of a year post op . He also informed me that he didn't do the surgery he had told me he was going to do. He basically fused me bone on bone.  Well, within 3 months of thatm I started getting horrific shooting pains down both legs and terrible pain and tightness in my sacriliac and in my hips. Ouch!  I found another spine surgeon ( one I had been to many years ago). He said not only the fusion was not completely fused, but it was not fused properly and in the correct area.  Needless to say, another surgery. Thinking oh Lord, let this heal well...that was in August of 2007. Same issue again.  more pain...shots, mri's, cat scans, blocks, meds, pt, yada yada...

      He was a very kind man and was shocked as well that the fusion, although 100 persent fused, was still causing pain...Back to more doctors, rheumatoligists, psycologists, depression meds, all the meds you can think of. 


      I have done every kind of therapy, shots, you name it , I have even lost 45 lbs and also tried many ".  Natural" products that swear they help the mind, body and ppl with severe Fibro, not to mention nerve damage from surgeries.

      OK, 2nd PS..

      PS did not have a "team" of ppl working with him as he was like you mentioned, a Pain Specialist.. Although it was refreshing to have a doctor that had a good beside manner and certainly was very concerned and baffled as to why I wasn't getting any relief  Now, 2 years after going back to my surgeon and being "treated" with meds and occasional films and talks, He finally left me a message stating there was nothing else he could do and that was when he "released" me and sent me to a PM practice.. . 


      I was hesitant like you, so I went to a Rhuem....she also referred me to the same PM facility. I eventually went there for my first appointment and was overwhelmed.They told me the first thing I needed to do was get off the pain meds ( I was only on vicodin and had been weening myself off the drugs due to family thinking I was addicted and did nothing but harrass me and make me feel even more horrible than how I was feeling with the pain I live in)  Stress also is a HUGE factor so of course, more pain pain pain not to mention not sleeping very well, working a lot ( own my own trucking company and raising children to boot).


      Then she said I was going to have to "commit" to this program and come back for a 6 hour "pre" test to meet with all the doctors that would be working my "case". She said it was going to be long and hard ( for the test) but that  is how they determine the path.  So I set the appt.  In the mean time, I needed to know an idea of costs, etc due to my insurance. I swear I am going to be dropped from all of this over the years. Well I about had a heart attack. Just to have the appt for the "pre"test and eval, it was going to cost over 1400.00. and that did not include the costs for the "holistic" approaches that insurance doesnt' cover....More stress and a feeling of utter defeat. No was would I be able to afford that.  Then I looked at the itemized daily charges.  ( I am in the wrong business).. It was ridiculous.  Well, that was 4 months ago and I still haven't done anything accept try and deal with my pain. Did YOU have to do the "pre" test?  I am in Illinois and the facility I was going to was out of a hospital in the suburbs.... I am overwhelmed with sadness, defeat and frustratation. I was also told to get maijuana to smoke at night to help with sleep. Can you imagine?


      I still go to weekly massage therapy as that is the ONLY thing that seems to relax me and help  a little bit. You have encouraged me to look further into the PM but how does one afford this?  It is insanly expensive....


      I still can't believe my body can produce as many tears as I cry.  Most ppl, especially my business associates, dont know what I suffer through every day. Most people couldn't even fathom, let alone bare pain at this level.  Trying to explain what this pain does to me physically, emotionally and mentally is impossible to most ppl.  I have also always prayed and asked Christ to take this away.  I know "he doesn't give you more than you can handle" but I can't handle this anymore.  I am thinking of closing my business and being put on disability because I am in Sales and in my car all the time. Its very difficult to get in and out. Most people look at me and honestly wouldn't have a clue I have this problem. Im soooo tired... so very very tired of this pain and sometimes wish I would die. the only thing keeping me here is my husband and children. Being a burden to them is difficult in itself......I am at my worst pain level since Christmas Eve...To say the least, It's been very difficult...


      Thank you for all the very useful information...I was recently told to go to a Neuro Pain Specialist Ortho Surgeion to see if I would be a candidate for a Baclefan Pain Pump. I've read a lot about them and read testimonies on them. It looks like it has the potential for rejection, as well as possible staff infections and challenges with side effects from the medicine.  The last thing I want is to have something else to deal with.... Any thought? I hope this letter finds you feeling better...God Bless

    • gloria
      May 19, 2013
      May 19, 2013
      Hi, my name is Gloria, I am new to this website. I have nerve damage among other things & on pain meds with a spinal cord stimulator in my back. I am in pain management and I have 1 doctor. I wanted to know what state you live in and how did you get a team of doctors to help you.thank you READ MORE
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  • Charles August 10, 2009
    August 10, 2009

    I also am Living with it.  i injured my neck to the point of losing my hearing in one ear and and a numb patch on my shoulder when I was 19 in a car accident.  The pain started.  At 40, I was a passenger in another accident where we hit a pole and I got whiplash.  The forst accident sent me on vicoden and flexoril for almost a year, and off and on over then 20.  The 2nd accident put me again on Vicoden and flexoril for another  9 months and lots of physical therapy.  My doctor tols me that the only things she could do for me was either fusing my vertabreas in my neck together or just physical therapy.  Physical therapy dosnt work.  I am now 43 and in pain more often than not in my neck.  My left arm is almost completly numb and the headaches feel like someone is blowing a balloon up inside my skull.  I can hardly think half the time because I get such horrible headaches from the constant pain in the neck.  Basicaly the way I deal with the pain is the old ice/heat routine and an ergonomic pillow.  This minimizes the down time I have and lets me be semi-productive around the house.  I have tried several different methods over the years such as massage, accupunture, yoga, marijuana, hypnotism, and even prayer.  I have had slight results from hypnotism and marijuanna (im assuming they were both phycologicaly helping)  But the ergonomic pillow and ice/heat routine is my only relief along with the little vicodin my Dr. talked me into taking.  I am only 43 and if Im to live another 20 years in pain, I am not going to spend them addicted to narcotics and very little function liver.  This my only alternative


  • Val
    July 04, 2009
    July 04, 2009

    Hello, I'm sorry about your situation and chronic pain is a frustrating thing which leads to depression, sadness etc.  I know, I have the same problem.  I go to a methodone clinic since I cannot find a doctor to treat me at home and going there daily using public transportation is a nightmare.  I want to respond to one thing you said about using prescribed narcotics not being able to go on forever.  All I can say is as long as you use as prescribed and try therapies, massages etc. I can't see why the use of the drugs has to stop.  If the pain is chronic you need help.  Just be sure to use the drugs properly, keep communication with your doctors open and maybe you will be ok.  Are the drugs controling the pain?  If so I feel what you are doing should stay as it is.  As they say "if is isn't broke, don't fix it."  I wish you much luck and feel for you in this unfortunate situation.

  • awnelson September 16, 2008
    September 16, 2008


    Hello, my name is Anthony Nelson and I see you have been trying to get help with chronic pain without much success not to disappoint you or to sound negative but I have been dealing with chronic pain since 1973 and still have little to offer in help when it comes to chronic pain without the public's stereotyping chronic pain. You know the old saying one bad apple spoils the whole bunch believe me nothing could be further from the truth when dealing with chronic pain and narcotic pain relief as for me I have lost my right leg due to chronic pain luckily I am a 100 % disabled Vietnam veteran. I can tell you this much if you are dealing with chronic pain in a extremity and are receiving Social Security Disability at this time the moment you go through amputation of that extremity and have completed physical therapy you can tell the Social Security by because you are now able to be employed according to Social Security regulations. How do I know this because it happened to me once my right leg which was causing me chronic pain as well as swelling and ulcers was amputated my Social Security stopped and watch out for back pay issues because they will do their best to prove you owe them back pay. I still get my military disability thank goodness. Well there is a whole lot more I can tell you about this subject but I am in chronic pain now in fact I have tears rolling down my checks because of the pain and the bad thing about it is that Hospice sees, me three times a week and you would think they could take care of the pain NOT. You see they are used to dealing with people who are dying with cancer and only deal with the chronic pain for a given length of time because they usually pass-away within 6 months or so and then their battle with chronic pain is over. What I cannot get through to Hospice and the doctors is the fact I have dealt with chronic pain since 1973 to present. I lost my right leg to amputation in 1980 after suffering from 1973 to 1980. The was not over because now I had to deal with phantom pains and nerve damage multiple joint damage due to the use of crutches and wheel chairs of and on until present I finally was taken down for good in 2002 due to multiple blood clots and breaking the femur two times in almost the same place just above my right knee. Hospice has told me that it is time for the amputation of my left leg due to ulcers and chronic pain as well as what they call PVD (peripheral vascular disease)  I am sorry but I must stop for now because of this pain I will try to write again if I am able to. I can tell you so much that you would find it hard to believe.

    Have a good night




    • Earl Roberts
      November 07, 2009
      Earl Roberts
      November 07, 2009

      Hello Anthony,

                         My name is Earl Roberts, I live in Vacaville, CA.  Your situation/story touched me to the bone.  I am a bilateral AKA.  I lost my right leg in 2006 and my left leg in 1999.  Fortunately SS has not put my SSDI at risk.  However, I am dealing with severe nerve-damage pain in my left leg, even ten years after losing it.  My story is too long to go into right now as I just had major surgery on my left elbow and am left with one arm to function with.  My right shoulder is also causing me grief as it sometimes will swell in the joint and become frozen with excruciating pain.  This has happened three times, last night being the third one.  Twelve hours after my elbow surgery (10-26-2009), my daughter called 911 when she heard from my 58 year-old mentally retarded brother (I am his care-provider) that I looked bad.  I remember the paramedics helping me, but after 20mg  of morphine (10mgX2) & verced I did not wake-up for 36 hours.  I later found out my blood pressure exceeded 218/110.  The pain I was in almost killed me.  I spent six days in the hospital getting dilauded every two hours and the three days after walking up I was so miserable from pain.   I like you have dealt for so long the nerve-damage and phantom pain that it has consumed everything that I am or ever was.  I must admit when I heard a paramedic tell the doctor over the radio that my BP was 218+ and climbing I prayed for a fatal heart attack.  PAIN is the most terrible word in the dictionary.  I would like to continue correspondence with you, as venting with another chronic pain sufferer can help in a small way.  Thank you Anthony,  may you find some relief or help out there and never give up.  Earl

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  • Gimpy1 August 21, 2010
    August 21, 2010


    Chronic pain is a cruel and life-altering condition. I really felt for you when I read your post. Try not to let it win, though accept that some days, it just does. Overall, I would suggest the following:

    Try a TENS unit (my fav is mini massuece, which can be find on their website, but sold new at cheaper prices on ebay).  These help nerve pain- types of pain basic massages just don't reach. There are a lot of good ones at affordable prices, but ask your dr first.

    Start looking into pain specialists- and ask abt pain meds. You dont want one that has a policy prohibiting prescription pain meds. You want an informed and compassionate pain specialist who understands that narcotic pain meds do not make you a junkie, rather, they are tools that will/can help in a better quality of life. This may take a while, but there are good, dedicated pain specialists who will help you gain control of your life. remember, your doctor works for you! If one is telling you it's all in your head, or to "live with it," find a better dr who listens and believes you. As with any other proffession, there are good dr's and bad ones. Keep searching until you find one who's right for you- if you can't yet afford a pain specialist. many primary care dr's will treat chronic pain until you're able to see a specialist. *You CAN stay on pain meds for life, though you need to alter them as tolerances build up.

    Keep records of your medical documents, and file for social security disability. Use a lawyer to help you, the process is long, tedious, and stupid. Lawyers in this field usually do not collect payment until you are awarded your disability status. Start sooner rather than later b/c once awarded disability, your benefits (and medicare) will be back-dated to the date you first filed. Unfortunately, be prepared to be denied more than once; this means nothing, it is basically the standard. Be patient. It sucks, but with your lawyer, you'll win if you're legit. Average time it takes is two years, so get started soon! Petition friends and fam to write letters attesting to your disability, and give them to your lawyer. Then be prepared to wait. Try not to get detered in the process, bc it's ridiculous, but worth the wait.

    Tell any bill collectors you are awaiting disability benefits; this should make you "judgement proof", but discuss it with your disability attorney, as I am not familiar with state-to-state variations of this law.

    Check out the American Pain Foundation. They may be able to suggest dr's in your area. They are a great resourse for pain sufferers, and a great place to meet and support fellow sufferers. That support can make all the difference in the world. Build a good support system with friends, fam, and anyone else who understands! Have someone you can "talk to" or text on the really bad days. It helps to vent.

    Look into anti-depressants-ask your dr. Chronic pain effects your entire life, as I'm sure you know, and it goes hand-in-hand with depression. Each problem can make the other one worse.

    Talk to your dr about the insomnia. You would be really surprised how much chronic lack of sleep makes chronic pain worse. Really! A good pain specialist will know this. There are medications that can help with pain and stress simultaneously, (Zanaflex is one of many, for example).

    Finally, give yourself a break. Do not let anyone else make you feel guilty or bad about something they obviously don't understand. Be kind to yourself, but be pro-active. Look into things, drs, medications, support groups, anything that can help you gain control over the pain. And never stop looking; one "click" could be the connection, the treatment, or the knowledge you need. You never know. And knowledge is power, so stay informed.

    Almost forgot-invest in a decent laptop, dvds, etc, anything you can watch or read, whatever you prefer, to distract you when your pain is at its worst.

    Good luck, Joe! Always remember you are not alone! There is even a virtual walk in Washington in September to bring awareness to legislators about the rights and needs of chronic pain sufferers! 

  • LYNDA HARRING April 30, 2011
    April 30, 2011

    I also live in ma. and am having a terrible time finding a dr. that will keep me on narcotics for any length of time as I believe they get nervous about the dea getting involved. You stated you have a dr, who gives you fentanyl and morphine. What is his name and where is he located if you don't mind my asking?

    thanks lynda

    • mrclean
      July 28, 2011
      July 28, 2011

      im from middleboro and i go to a pain clinic that prescribes what is needed as long as its needed (no pill hunting)i can give you all info for them


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  • Ky
    October 20, 2010
    October 20, 2010


    I know what you are going through!  I was hit by a car in 2002 and have beed disabled since.  I cant maintain any positions for longer than 20 minutes or I am in excruciating pain.  I have nerve damage caused not only by the accident but by the surgery they did to help me!  My tailbone was broken inward at 90 degrees with part of my sacrum as well.  I have had 4 surgeries on my spine including tailbone removal from the sacrococcygeal joint.  I get numbness in my leg, and shooting pain, numbness in my hands with blanching, migraines, and so much more.  I am on MAJOR narcotics including Percocetts 2 every 4 hours,  Fentynal patches 200mcg/72 hrs. and injections from the pain clinic every three months into varrious areas in my spine.  Although it sounds like nothing has helped me, that isn't true as I was way worse a couple years ago...until I was put on an anti scezure medication  (to help with the nerve pain) It is called Gabapentin and I am on 1200mg 3 times a day! My injuries and pain have done nothing but ruin my life...I was a constable, a wife, I am a mother however the quality of my mothering had been seriously affected, my husband walked out because he "didnt sign up for this" and I am not working and havent been since the hit & run accident in 2002.   I am looking for solutions as well, but all I'm being told is to start taking medicinal pot because it won't effect my liver and other organs like the meds I'm on now.  I have considered risky surgeries because I am sick of the pain and with paralysis, I wouldn't have any.  Anyway I understand how pain can ruin your life as I am in the same boat as you, but if you haven't been put on Gabapentins yet, ask about them they really do help, and I have been told that the nerve damage I suffer from is in the WORST area to treat, and heal so you may get great results from taking these!  Be strong and be very involved with your treatment (like research procedures, meds, specialists, and look into doctors in other provences/states etc.) if you leave it up to your medical providers you will be going through this for a very long time. I hope things work out for you and I thank you for your post because suddenly I don't feel so alone

    Good luck to you,


  • SheSharp August 12, 2010
    August 12, 2010

    Did your Doctor find that your discs had also cause you a spinal injury as well?  I also had surgery on C5-C6.  My pain has affected other body functions.  Since when should a woman have trouble urinating?


    My Dr. (located here in Mission Viejo, Ca) told me that the surgery that he did wasn't meant to fix my problem, it was meant to keep my problem from getting any worse.


    I would (do as you are doing) find another Dr.  But this time, be very careful what you tell the new Dr. about what the old Dr. said.  This way, the information that you get from the visit will not be biased to protect another in his field.  When he asks you for the name, give him a name he has never heard of.  This will also take off the pressure from him feeling like he is going against someone he knows.  Neuro specialities are a very small community. 

  • hjohnson94 August 01, 2010
    August 01, 2010

    I've had mri .x-rays Ihave had to take a number of meds nun have worked.finally ae emg was done which showed radiculopathy

  • i had a back fusion in 2000 and have found very little relief after pain managements were exhuasted to my my x spouse playing with my meds i am left with nothing local.  i have chronic pain that wraps around my left hip and feels as though it is being crushed.  recently the pain has started at the top of my left leg and runs down the leg from the very top of the leg to behind the knee.  it is unbearable and makes what should be simple things extremely hard to do.  it has me nervous, tense and feeling like giving up.  my quality a life has suffered greatly and i am at a loss of what to do.  my family said go to boston they are the best. so at my last option i felt this could not hurt.  any information and advise would be greatly appreiciated. please contact me.  sincerely carolyn 

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  • horse lover May 01, 2014
    horse lover
    May 01, 2014

    Hi Joe

    Your problems sound alot like mine. As to your situation, I would insist on a current MRI with contrast to make sure there's nothing new. As far as your Rotators/Labral issues, I think you should have them repaired. That may part of your neck, arm, hand problem.

    Massage would be of great value for your muscle spasms and just general relaxation, sometimes just relaxing your musculature eases chronic pain.

    I go to a pain management dr. They are usually anesthesiologists. I've had multiple epidurals, nerve blocks, etc. with limited results. I also use a TENS unit which is portable and controlled by you.

    The last treatment for me would be a spinal cord stimulator, which blocks the pain signals from reaching the brain.

    I hope that gives you something to think about. I live in FL. So can't recommend any drs.

    Good Luck and God be with you. 

  • travis December 18, 2012
    December 18, 2012

    i'm a 39yr old male, quadriplegic who suffers from chronic pain. i've tried many, many drugs. im on 5-20mg oxycodone ir. it treated my pain great for 9 months. Now it also barely works. the side effects are a living hell-trouble breathing, anxiety attacks, and now sighns of sleep apnea. in the last 3 months, i've had 2 pain clinics shut down because of this horrible drug. I think my last chance will be a spinal cord stimulator implant, since my doc refuses to put morphine in my baclofen pump. GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS YOU.

  • gigi June 20, 2012
    June 20, 2012

    do you know how to hook up the tens unit? Does the red electrode go in before the black?


    10 yrs severe chronic pain and FMS etc.. Medi-cal does not issue  out great specialist.  suffer suffer and people don't see it so they think your not disabled so frustrating. Please tell me anyone can't walk have numbness from many things and spinal stenosis.Cry 

  • Sharon Anne June 05, 2012
    Sharon Anne
    June 05, 2012

    I forgot to say that I used a TENS unit with great success and that lead to the SCS trial.


    As others have suggested, if your insurance will cover it, try accupuncture, get training in self hypnosis. Guided imagery and relaxation therapy can also help.


    It is uncommon for any one treatment modality to stop all the pain. Each type of treatment can help a little. When you use everything that shows any relief you wind up with an accumulation of treatments the provide a total package of pain relief.


    Another thing we all desperately need is enough SLEEP! Sleep deprivation alone causes  pain. For someone with a chronic pain condition adequate sleep is vital.

    I have Sleep Apnea and require a BiPaP machine to help me breath while asleep. If you are lucky you may need only a mild sedative to help you sleep.


    Right now I see my Primary Care Physician (PCP), a Neurologist (DO) who oversees my sleep apnea. I have had two overnight sleep studies. If you have 5 apnic episodes in an hour you qualify for needing a CPaP or BiPaP. I had 125 episodes. The technician monitoring me said it was painful listening to me try to breath while having fitful sleep. Additionally I have an MD specializing in chronic pain management and I see his Family Nurse Practitioner every month to monitor my narcotic use (pee in a bottle) to be sure I am using the narcotics and not selling them and she also writes my RX for Methadone, Norco 10/325  and Gabapenten.


    Managing chronic pain is something that you must be  persistent at. Usually no one area of health care will control chronic pain.


    As you can see from all the methods I have tried and am using, it is a long hard struggle to control chronic pain.


    I have not said the cause of my chronic pain. It is a long story and bit too long for this forum.


    Blessed Be

  • Sharon Anne June 05, 2012
    Sharon Anne
    June 05, 2012

    Since you need narcotics for your extreme, chronic pain I am surprised your Drs. have not put you on methadone. It is the only narcotic you can be on for years without brain damage. It does have a black label from the FDA but if it works for you it can work very well for a long time.


    Have your Drs. tried a Spinal  Cord Stimulator? It put an electrode next to your spinal cord and generates a low intensity electric current that blocks the pain signal. A temporary topical SCS is used first to see if it will work for you. If it does then a permanent SCS is implanted in much the same way as a Pacemaker only from the back instead of the front.


    Nerve blocks can be very helpful. Medication is injected into the nerves to numb them. If medication proves helpful then Nerve Ablation can provide permanent relief.


    Have your Drs. try some or all of these techniques.


    I have.

  • Lauri l. ketcherside March 23, 2012
    Lauri l. ketcherside
    March 23, 2012

    To whom it may concern, I too suffer severe pain every day of my life. I was hurt on the job in 1998. I'am also a severe heart paitent, with a very rare heart disease. At 35 after c-spine surgery i had the first of 4 heart attacks. 5 days later. Iam on many, many meds. stress can kill me they have found. I had the same docotor 12 years. never a problem between us, so i thought. about a month ago i got a letter saying he would no longer see me as a paitent. i'm also a diabetic. i'm on strong pain meds without them i could die. i'm so afraid and can not find adoctor whowill help me. I live close to Jefferson city Mo. What do i do??

  • Ron Durr April 25, 2011
    Ron Durr
    April 25, 2011

    Hi Joe,


    I hope my words find you having some type of comfort. My wife wrote to you because she had a similar situation. We were talking about it and during our discussion I asked if she told you about Trigger Point Therapy. It is a type of massage that puts pressure on the knots we have that cause us a great deal of pain. You may also hear it called Myofascial Release. When we have injuries or surgeries we almost always have these knots. Even runners and football players get them because they injure their muscles by over working them. Bonnie benefitted greatly by this after her neck and back surgeries. I even had a session because I was having back pain. Turns out I had sciatica in my right hip. My calves never hurt though my job required me to walk on concrete all day. Man, I tell you, when she touched my calves I screamed like a baby. And she barely even touched me. My calves were rock solid. It took several sessions to get them worked out. It is not a painless undertaking but well worth the pain. It can take a dozen sessions just to get the pain under control in one area. It can be expensive as it is a specialty area but if you look around you may find one for say $35 to $40 per hour. Don't know if you can afford this but we got to where we couldn't either, so I learned how to do it myself. There are many websites that explain the concept then all you need is a willing partner that will learn with you. Arnica pain relief crean also gives great relief for a few hours at a time. Hope I have been of some help.




    Ron Durr

  • Bonnie April 25, 2011
    April 25, 2011

    Hi Joe,


    I have about the same thing as you have. I also wokeup from surgery with these symptoms after a 4 level neck surgery C-3 through C-7 to stop the vertabraes from smashing my spinal cord. It was smashed down to 6.2 mm and is susposed to be 18mm to function right in the spinal canal. I have numbness in both hands and my right shoulder hurts from shattering  it 1980.  Anyway, I am on Methadone which would be about the same as your fentenyl patches. Also, I take hydrmorphone which would be about like your morphine but in my opinion better. . I also take soma for muscle spasms and I know your frustration with the drugs and no hope of ever feeling better for good. My doc won't experiment with drugs either. But, when I read some of our other respondants I feel blessed and lucky. Things can alsway be much worse. I wouldn't go with the medication pumps. As far as I can tell you of things that I have found helpful is I found a trigger point massuse. She explained to me that every injury we have ever had makes a small knot in the muscle fibers and after a lifetime and a few surgeries and car wrecks etc they can become quite painful and quite many all over our bodies especially (in our case) our backs, necks, chest and butts. I found my trigger point massuse from a massage school. She was there to up her areas of expertise and was in a special program. She worked with me until I had to quit because of money.  I remember one day after a session with her, I walked outside by myself and moved and walked around and I felt so happy..I hadn't felt that good since I can't remember when.  The theory goes, if they can retrain the muscles to not knot up anymore you will feel remarkably better.  This is also called myofacial release I have later found out. So far, with the drugs and massage and as much exercise as I can tollerate plus keeping stress down to a dull roar, I only feel bad 1/2 the time.  Mornings are my worst, I take my meds then go back to bed. Then when I get up I go until I hurt pretty bad around 8 at night and then the pain meds don't work anymore. Sorry I don't have more help for you but our symptoms are so similar I figured I''d give you how I feel all the time. Also, with the spinal cord compression I feel difficulty in urinating with frequent UTI'S. Also the good old constipation with the opiods and for some reason my balance is terrible. It was explained to me by a physical therapist that the spinal cord doesn't heal and when it is smashed it stays that way. Stem cell research is hopeful and will be available in 15 years or so here in the US. In the meantime they are doing it all over the world and having much sucess with people far worse than us. Good luck and feel free to write me at beyondaradiseca@yahoo.com.   Bonnie

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