i want to make love to my girlfriend, and she is 90% not able to how do i handle this frustration?

Let me be so bold as to suggest an outlet to your frustration--masturbate. Self-stimulation is perfectly natural and healthy. This way you can access and control your own pleasure pathways. Next, tap into a different sexual energy that can be enjoyed by both of you because it is less physically demanding. Many of these techniques are based on Tantric teachings. You can read more about them in a book called, "Your Long Erotic Weekend" by Dr. Holstein and Dr. Taylor. If you view a sexual relationship as being beyond intercourse and orgasm, you will discover that a strong, fulfilling sex life is focused on energy.

Try a little music therapy to get you in the mood.

Dr. Christina Lasich, MD