I'm a wife of 15 years to a wonderful man who is being destroyed by nerve pain and depression from a back injury at work that was misdiagnosed for too long. He is being treated with fentanyl and nortryptalene (sorry on spelling). I wanted to know if there were any "retreat" kinds of places where he could go to be in a peaceful place filled with professionals spanning doctors to psychiatrists and nutritionists where he could learn the coping skills to live a happy life and just get away from it all while he's there. Its been over 3 years now and I think he's had about all he can take. Are there any such places to help people like him?
There certainly are and they can be very helpful. Mindfulness-based-stress-reduction programs were originally developed, in fact, for pain patients who no longer got relief from drugs. MBSR courses are now taught across the country. You can find practitioners here: http://www.umassmed.edu/cfm/mbsr/
Other pain management course are available. Researchers now know that anxiety activates pain producing circuits - so stress relieving therapies can be surprisingly helpful at times.
John Kabat Zinn created the MBSR course- you might want to check out his book - "Full Catastrophe Living" for more info on this type of therapy. Good luck!
Cort: Thank you so much. I feel like I'm the only soldier in his army and I'm simply out of amunition. But I can't stop fighting either; even if he wants to give up. I just know there's something out there than can help.
Did you find some help for your husband? I am a 54-year old woman who has suffered with severe pelvic pain since 10/01/08 and I, too, am losing the battle. I am looking for a place where I could go and stay for awhile.
One in Maine sounded pretty good for men or women. I bought both Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn's book and CD-Rom and learned a lot about coping and controlling pain. I REALLY found it inciteful as a caretaker and I understood his reactions to his pain so much better. May I ask what your pelvic pain is from?
I found Darlene Cohen online but its for women in chronic pain so it didn't fit my situation. She holds retreats for pain management. Maybe it will help you. http://www.darlenecohen.net/welcome.html. I haven't really checked out her site carefully, but from the brief glimps I had it looks promising.
Please keep writing and keep fighting.
Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom (Revised Edition): Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing by Christine Northrup M.D. is an amazing book. I recommend it to any woman healthy or ill. Men could even benefit from her wisdom. Her DVD seminars are inspiring too - You name it, she talks about it and with such knowledge and honesty as a Dr. of 30 years.