Saturday, February 11, 2012

miss independent

as the 4th of july weekend winds down i am realizing that like america herself i can celebrate independence.  from smoking.  and i was in thrall.  i made major life decisions around smoking; planned trips with stops, booked smoking rooms, bought cartons on vacation.  i actually bought a condo because there was a convenience store in the building.  o.k., that's an exaggeration, but i viewed it as a major plus.  the idea of being able to run downstairs at midnight for cigarettes was decadent and delightful.  smoking friends envied me.  but i haven't smoked in over a year.  i spent a week in the hospital, was diagnosed with coronary artery disease and peripheral artery disease and wound up with 8 stents.  so the actual act of quitting took place while i was an inpatient.  the first step i took upon returning home was to beg the store owners NOT to sell me cigarettes.  fortunately for them (though not for me) i replaced the revenue with candy!  and i did gain weight.  then i lost it.  any and every thing that occurred during the course of breaking that habit was worth it.

   last night i was on the phone with my sister as she went into a gas station for her marlboro lights (can i use a brand name here?) she didn't have her wallet and was paying with change and singles scrapped together from glove box and seats.  and they were over 6 dollars!!!  she was 75 cents short and the proprietor fronted her the difference.  my first comment to her was " how cool, what a nice guy"  and maybe he is.  but not for that reason.  maybe he could have turned her away and gave her a longer life.  not his responsibility, i know, but still.....  i'm very sensitive about being "preachy", however the cost of smoking is so great and in the end winds up being paid for by our loved ones who cry over our smoking related hardships and may one day even mourn.  we're all in this together.  even the statue of liberty beseeches us to "breathe free".  so be a lifesaver.  if you still smoke,quit.  if someone tries to bum a cigarette say "no".  donate 75 cents (or more) to the american cancer society.  if you've successfully quit be a "freedom fighter" and help someone else through the incredibly trying process of quitting.  it's an act of patriotism!

8/11/09 4:03pm

Hi, Randilynn.

 

I recall your posts from last year as you struggled with quitting smoking and weight gain and all the other inevitable issues of becoming smoke-free - I am so glad to see that you hung in there and are still smoke-free - how amazing and wonderful is that!? I know you will serve as an inspiration to others, maybe even to your sister - congratulations on your continued success!

 

best,

anne

8/11/09 4:33pm

thank you.  i just posted the other day; my father died at age 65 from prostrate cance with bone metasis.  we though it was quick, the doctor's thought it was practically a miracle.  but in that post i also posted an ulimatum.  ithreatened to smoke ome of my two sisters cidarettes if they didn't quit this week.  i said i'd smoke one from each of their packs.  but i really can't.  help?

8/11/09 10:09pm

I'm so sorry I didn't read your more recent post - your July 4th one jumped out at me - my condolences on the loss of your father - that is just awful and he was so young.

 

The thing about smoking is that once you relapse, you find yourself immediately regretting it and your other issues still remain, except now you have to quit smoking again. I do hope you won't break down and smoke, but if you do, my wish for you is that you can quit immediately - it is so important not to jeopardize your health - with over a year under your belt, your body has made some serious progress toward healing - please don't risk throwing it all away.

 

best,

anne

8/13/09 5:19pm

i have, at all times, an inappropriate sense of humor. or maybe just naivety with threats.  i told my sister that i'd start again if she didn't quit.  she hasn't, but i'll never smoke again.  the accountability i feel towards my dad has outlasted his life

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