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Hi there

I imagine that you must feel very hurt and also worried about what may come next with your husband's behavior. 

And it is especially difficult, I am sure, because you are focused on caring for your baby. 

It may be time to really talk and find out what may have lured him to seek out such conversations and to set some boundaries as far as what you will put up with and what you will not.

I do hope things work out.  Thank you for sharing your story here.

This sounds like a lot to deal with, along with a new baby.  This early stage in a child's life is, I think, about the most difficult because it is such a huge change to your whole lifestyle and your relationship with your spouse.  You might even be experiencing some postpartum depression, which is not to minimize how you're feeling, because it sounds like there is a problem with trust.  Do you think you could get your husband to go with you to a couple's therapist?  My husband and I have found this a good place that's safe where we can talk about things that maybe seem too frightening at the time and then we find out where each other is coming from and it puts everything into a different perspective.  We're still doing this and we've been married for almost 37 years!  I guess that illustrates that there's always work involved in a relationship and sometimes it's good to have help.  I wish you the best in resolving this with your husband, as this will be good for your child, as well.