What to Do When Your Partner is Depressed

Well when he/she gets depress than everything changes, way of talking, thinking, understanding, one must better be careful when he/she talks with her/his depressed partner because when they get depressed, they think differently, and gives unexpected meanings to what you say. But its not them who talks at that time but their depression. My best experience is just listen to them and empathies, if they ask you any question you don’t have to worry about the answer because you can see answer in their question. It’s very easy for partner because he/she knows about him/her.

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Its hard to have a partner who is depressed. You do not know what to say to them just in case they get the wrong idea or that it starts up a major arguement over nothing. Sometimes even you question your relationship and whether you are also strong enough to handle what is going on plus living an everyday life of your own.

Many questions circle in your head; Is it my fault? Why, no matter what I say or do, nothing helps them? Why do I feel so usless?

The simple thing is, once all these things do go around in your head, you start to discard them all, and say, I loved them and I know they love me. I'm not giving up on this nor them. They need me right now and I'm going through every step with them no matter what. Because that is what it is all about. 'For better, for worse. In sickness and in health.'

But also think about yourself as well, just because you decide to be there for them or not, you have a duty, not only to yur decision, but to yourself. Your physical health can become worse if you allow in to eat away at you.

*Stand By Your Decision, But Never Be Ashamed Of What You Picked*

Why have all eight of the articles about "coping with your partners depression" I've just found been written from the point of view of women looking after men? I guess either more men are depressed or more likely, there are no men discussing this issue (how sad). Your article and most of the others I've found have been centered around the circumstance were you're partner has only recently become depressed, and often where the partner won't seek help. My wife has been depressed for many years and is extremly open to any help that medical professionals or I have been able to offer. It's become clear to me that her problems are long term ones. I've grown accustomed to caring for my wife over the years and although her difficulties can sometimes cause me great pain, I no longer feel helpless or depressed my self. Most of my frustrations these days are centered around my son and what to do when I feel my wife can't look after him properly or doesn't take him to school (I have to support us financially so can't do that). I've changed jobs and moved closer to my parents and they are a great support. My wife loves them too and they give her alot of love and encouragement. I didn't like what you said about a "line in the sand" beyond which you'd be prepared to leave your partner. That strikes me as a very decadent hedonistic American view point. I suspect that if I shared that sentiment I would have already left my wife and what would become of her and my son then? At times, only the strong belief in the vow I made to care for her "in sickness and in health" has kept me with her. That being said, when the periods of terrible depression subside for a while, I find that I still love her very much. And as things stand my little boy is a happy little lad and doesn't worry that his mum sometimes stays in bed all day etc. If I divorced my wife then he'd have to be looked after in two seperate homes. And when my wife was looking after him she'd no longer have any support and that thought chills me to the bone. The most important things that keep me sane are sport, friends and family. When I go running or go out for a few traditional ales with a few good friends I always find that my problems seem in better perspective. My wife won't really go outside so I rely on my friends to go out places with me and my son to do butch manly stuff. I feel like I can be strong for as long as it takes (even if it's sometimes very painful), the only thing that concerns me is, is that this might allow my wife to settle into a routine of dependance? Sometimes I've observed that a crisis can bring my wife out of herself (Although usually not). I never know what to do really, so I just carry on doing what I'm doing.....

I am somwhat crying out for help. My boyfriend and I are really struggling, in all areas of our relationship and I want to be able to move forward but I am really struggling and extremely lost on how to deal with his depression. there are children involved and I am so worn down and feel alone, I don't really know what else to do. I want to be able to communicate with him on a level that can bring us closer together. I love him with all of my heart, and I want for things to get better, I just don't know how..

He 's really an amazing person. Genuine, loving and kind, but when his depression sets in , it's hard to keep a hold of hope...

I am somwhat crying out for help. My boyfriend and I are really struggling, in all areas of our relationship and I want to be able to move forward but I am really struggling and extremely lost on how to deal with his depression. there are children involved and I am so worn down and feel alone, I don't really know what else to do. I want to be able to communicate with him on a level that can bring us closer together. I love him with all of my heart, and I want for things to get better, I just don't know how..

He 's really an amazing person. Genuine, loving and kind, but when his depression sets in , it's hard to keep a hold of hope...