Don't underestimate the power of chickens and cows!! (Seriously, my pets, 2 cats, are essential to my well-being.) What I noticed was that when things got really bad for me, so many of my friends bailed on me (in essence, my presence was bringing them down, they said). And among other things, my car got re-possessed, limiting my ability to find other people. It's been really difficult, although I have one friend who has taken to inviting me to run errands and participating in some of her activities. So I started going to a volunteer quilting group (and then helping African refugee ladies to sew) at her church... and then started going to that church... and doing other things associated with the church. The members of the church are lovely people, some of whom I had known before my life crashed. (Although I do have some issues with this particular church, in that it's Protestant versus Catholic, and so many of the members are so much older than I, they aren't really my peers -- although I don't object to the company of senior citizens.) I do know that I feel better if I am around people, although sometimes being around people (or getting enough energy to get ready to be around people) takes a lot out of me. In addition to the quilting and my own projects, I've been thinking about joining a literacy program at a nearby college. So, some things are looking up, but I can't say that I'm pulling my life together yet. I like your comments in this blog! **************************** Dear Laura, Even if you feel you're not pulling your life together yet, you are making a real effort to do so. I think it's fantastic that even with the obstacles to socializing, you've still done so much. Quilting is a great idea, since you have something to keep yourself busy while you're with other people. I understand so well how being with people can take a lot out of you. Two of my worst memories from depressed periods are attending a wedding and attending a bridal shower. But as you said, it can help your mood to be around others too. Keep reading! Deborah

Hi Deborah, I read your blog on how we need a good support system. This makes perfect sense - it's something that I will work on now that I've read your blog. I've been suffering from depression for quite some time. I was feeling kind of alone today came across this blog. It couldn't have happened at a better time! Thank You and Best Wishes. John ******************************** John, I am so happy to hear that the blog piece was helpful. I'm glad you're committing to working on it. Even though reaching out and maintaining contact with other people is difficult when you're depressed, I really think it's essential to remain connected. Best of luck with your commitment to strengthening your support system and thank you so much for reading. Deborah