Self Fulfilling prophecies

Hi, Lodovicho.  I don't think you're alone in having difficulty accomplishing what you want to.  Sometimes that's a big symptom of depression.  Have you seen a doctor or therapist?  A psychologist could probably evaluate you for that and maybe for something like ADD.  It sounds like you get pretty frustrated with yourself.  Maybe talking to someone about why you think these things happen would be helpful.  Try not to be so hard on yourself and think of it as, perhaps, your psyche telling you something needs to change.

Don't know if that helps at all, but I don't think it would hurt to get it checked out.  Thanks for visiting the site, it's a good place to vent.

Hello there

May I ask what country you are from?  We have quite the international crowd here on this site and just wanted to know your land of origin and for you to explain what "stone" means. 

You sound...a lot like me.

You are a classic worrier.  I bet if you are not worried then you get worried that you should be worrying about something.  It is difficult to worry so about everything...it takes a lot of time and energy.  However...us worriers can use this mental power for good things!  Like achieving goals for example.

Here is one tactic I use about my worries.  I list them.  Make a big 'ol list...everything that is on your mind...nothing is too "silly."  Next...prioritize as to which things cause you the most anxiety.  Take the top five things and ask yourself if these are things under your control or not.  If they are not under your control...you gotta let go of those things.

Like...weight for example.  While you can do things to alter your weight...you cannot control how others feel about you.  If you choose to do something about weight...do it for YOU...do it to be more healthy.  Some people in this world will like and love you no matter what you look like.  Those are the people you gotta find.

Next...the driving thing.  I need to write about my story about driving.  I don't.  I am phobic.  I have come to accept this about myself and actually I found my phobia has a rational basis.  So please don't feel so bad. 

I think it is a really good step that you are writing here.  We absolutely do want to hear more from you as much as you are comfortable telling.  There is great support here so yes...do write and let it all out.

Thanks for reaching out.

Hi, Lodovicho.

I think it's an easy cycle to get into - starting but not completing anything. I often find I fear accomplishing things because I fear success. I don't think I'm worthy of it. Why should life be made easier by being able to drive myself around? For example. Also driving means a lack of control for me because I move much faster (and sometimes my brain feels like mush and is slow and so that scares me) and I have no control over everyone else on the road who are driving about fast too... that lack of control freaks me out. So generally I hate driving too.

Still I hope you can find it in yourself to stick to a task, just to complete it. It's the whole idea that you are in a pattern of not completing anything but if you get yourself used to completing things that will become the pattern... if that makes sense. Perhaps you could start small. Maybe say that you will go and do something once a week - even if it is just walking to a nearby park or something, or going to the movies (or something else you enjoy) and sticking to it.

I liked what Merely Me said about you needing to do things for you - like losing weight. If you don't feel comfortable and would like to get fitter than by all means work on that - but if you think you want to lose weight to satisfy another person's opinion... it doesn't work that way. Nobody has any control over what anyone else thinks. I've had people turn me away for being too thin. You can't worry about what others think - you need to be satisfied in yourself (much easier said than done, I know.)

Anyway I hope you continue to write here and that in time perhaps you'll learn how to keep with a task. I think it's partly to do with the depressed mind of feeling inadequate and lack of energy and motivation... keep at it, especially if it bugs you so.

update- really like this girl, but feel helpless. even if something happened, depression and insecurity would mess up a relationship quite quickly, right?