How Do I Cope?

rsue1992 Living With It I am a seperated mom of 3, living with depression. I became seperated after a 13 year marriage. I have 3 children, ages... Send Message Subscribe: rsue1992

Sunday, October 04, 2009
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I am going through a bitter custody and divorce. I recently lost custody of my 3 kids. The man I love and want to spend my life with is having a hard time being supportive because he has a rough past and has a hard time dealing with his own issues, let alone mine. I suffer from depression. I w...

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Coping
Judy
Monday, October 05, 2009 at 10:01 AM

Hello, RSue, it sounds like you are really suffering right now. Losing custody of your kids had to feel crushing, I can't imagine how I would cope. I would suggest that you find a therapist to talk to, as it doesn't sound like you have one. It would be a safe environment in which to release all the pain and sorrow and to get support. You probably need more help than your boyfriend can give you and if he's having a hard time dealing with his own stuff, he's probably in no position to be as much support as you need.

I hope you'll keep writing here and let us know how you're doing. If you don't think you can afford a therapist or don't have insurance, let me know - we have some information on how to get help without it.

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rsue1992
Friday, October 09, 2009 at 08:45 AM

Thank you for your response. I was seeing a therapist, however I didn't feel as though it was helping. I was on meds, but I think they were making me feel worse. I stopped taking them, I have stopped the drinking. (The alcohol made me feel horrible!). When I do see my kids, they remind me how much they love me and that makes me feel like they still need me. I just need to make an effort to see my kids as much as I can. Hopefully, one day, I will get them back.

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Judy
Friday, October 09, 2009 at 09:46 AM

RSue, maybe you didn't have the right therapist, or the right medication. It's not uncommon to have to try different medications to find the one that works the best. Therapists, too, are all different and sometimes we just don't "click" with them. If you continue to feel really bad, I hope you'll consider giving this another try. Working with the right person can make all the difference in the world.

Judy, I'm Going Through A Seperation Also.
Melba
Friday, October 09, 2009 at 06:56 AM

     Judy,

I do feel for what you are saying. I went though Hell and back with my husband,

     with his bipolar disorder. I called the police yesterday, because he was very

violent; he though his supper at the wall, when I told him, I wasn't going to let him intimadate me.

He isn't taking meds. I'm beat down and tired. I'm just so

tired of the whole situation. I can't deal with this, it is killing me! I'm going back to my home town, where I should of stayed in the beginning. Our pastor told my husband clearly, " Pray about this, don't move, well,it tought me a lesson. I'm going home.

Yesterday, his sister calls me up saying, " Why did you call the police on him?" I have

had it. I need to do what is best for me, so I can keep atleast some of my sanity. I'm

tired of always thinking of my husband, when he doesn't care, and doesn't give me the

time od day and continues to do as he pleases. I will continue to pray about this. I know the fight isn't over, its a struggle, especially when my children didn't want me to leave at all. It seems, for me, the older I get the less I realize. I need to pray more

with my maker, maybe, it would be much eaiser for me. Judy, I will keep you in my

prayers, God, hear sour prayers. Keep your head up high, pray to your maker.



                                      May peace be yours, Melba.