My Fiance'

does she need to see a doctor?? maybe she is just overwhelmed with all that is going on....when I get that way..I too can become very depressed...also, she may need some meds and that can and often do help...with the right doctor and help..life can be worth living...it's amamzing how sound this advice is..and I am having a crappy time of it now????

I am so sorry that both of you are going through this. It is a very difficult thing to live with.

I have suffered for many years with depression. I just came out of a very low low. I was suicidal. It was pure hell for me. But it was also pure hell for my husband. He had never seen me like that before. He was scared to go to work, or even just leave me alone for a little bit. When I get that deep into my hole, the only thing that stops me from killing myself is the fact that I know I will burn in hell.

The absolute best thing that you can do for her right now is be there for her. Listen listen listen! Listen to her. Its very important. Dont take what she says for granted. If she is yelling and screaming...LISTEN. She absolutely does not mean anything bad by what she is doing or saying. Next...get her out around other people. Dont let her sit in the house and wallow in misery. Surprise her with things that make her happy.

My husband bought me the most beautiful bouquet of roses. He knows I love flowers of any kind. He knows that he can always get a big smile when he surprises me like that.

Just be patient. Dont push. Dont "tell" her what she needs. She knows what she needs. She will tell you. Give her lots of love. But dont smother her.

Always remember that this is a lifetime thing. It never completely goes away. As you get to know her better, you will start to learn her symptoms. Personally, I withdraw and start eating...ALOT.

Hang in there. I know it is rough. But she loves you. I know you love her too. You wouldnt be asking for help if you didnt love her.

Congrats on the engagement too.

Sincerely,

Mrs A

Mrs. A gives good advice. I to suffer from depression. The response from my wife

was " I wish you would get over it". Although I feel pretty good right now, I don't think

I'll ever get off the meds. It is a lifelong thing. Look on the sunny side of life.

Peace & Blessings     -  Danny G.

Mrs. A gives good advice. I to suffer from depression. The response from my wife

was " I wish you would get over it". Although I feel pretty good right now, I don't think

I'll ever get off the meds. It is a lifelong thing. Look on the sunny side of life.

Peace & Blessings     -  Danny G.

Mrs. A gives good advice. I to suffer from depression. The response from my wife

was " I wish you would get over it". Although I feel pretty good right now, I don't think

I'll ever get off the meds. It is a lifelong thing. Look on the sunny side of life.

Peace & Blessings     -  Danny G.

it's hard to explain, but I can tell you that on one hand you love the people in your life and you don't want to hurt them, but on the other you just want to die.  It's consuming.  You try to stay busy or to keep your mind on something else, but it keeps coming back. You just want to die. You think about how they may be better off without you because you know that you are broken.  These thoughts are not normal but they are who you are. One minute you can be laughing with friends and the next praying that God will just take your life from you.  You don't have hopes or dreams for your future because your not sure that you have one.  A lot of the time it's just trying to force yourself to go through the motions of the day.  You act happy when you should, you hide the pain that is inside.  If someone you're close to is dead, you may find that you'd rather be with them than here. You may have written lists of the reasons you don't want to live, of the horrible thoughts in your head and the hurts in your heart.  You may have started letters to all the people who you are scared of hurting asking them to forgive you and not blame themselves for your suicide.  You may have a list of the things that you want to do before you die and unlike normal people it contains things like bake cookies and go dancing.  These are everyday type things to most but it's your checklist to complete before you die.  You are luck that she is seeking help, some of us aren't because we haven't come to a point where we want help.  If I tell someone who knows me, they may stop it and I don't know if I want that.  Every mistake and every time I disappoint someone else it reaffirms the feelings and desire to end it all.  You don't feel that it has to do with anyone else, I think it's just a self view. You don't think that someone else should be responsible for fixing you or making you happy and you'll just make their lives miserable by being here because they'll keep trying and it's not fair to them.  You're not adding anything to the world or to those around you so you should just check out. I hope this helps you to have a little insight.

Key words:  being pro-active

If she is not.....then you need to ask professionals their advice on this...maybe the two of you together.  

This would be my deal-breaker if I were you:  a person absolutely refusing to seek help.   No amount of love can fix a biological illness, although it can certainly help a person to know how much they ARE loved.  But, the illness is almost contagious in certain ways.  It is treatable now. She probably is aware of this, which is probably why she is proactive.   You will hear many say it isn't worth it, I'm guessing...because they don't believe it can be treated.  But with tenacity and your girlfriend not "settling" (for a doctor or therapist or medicine) for something that isn't helping enough.

Be careful that Her depression and mood-swings does not rub off on you, my friend. We all have them, but some,  has Jesus Christ, and we go to Him. Thank you.++