Hi,
I'm looking for someone to talk to just about every day things. I have lived with depression for may years and have had major life events in the last three years and currently that are making things even worse.
Just need someone to vent to I guess.
Thanks.
Don't compare your pain - it's just as real as any one else's. We all need people who understand...this is the right place. Sounds like you've got stuff going on - if you'd like to talk, I'm more than happy to listen, and be there. I think I can relate. So please feel free to write to me anytime, ok?
Mara
I know - it's easy to get into that pattern if you're a caring person, but then other people's problems can overwhelm you, and then sometimes when you need the help there seems like there is no one. I think I'm in an ok place right now, but it seems that a few of my friends are having hard times, and right now it's really all about them, and that can be hard at times. Hang in there, and again, if you ever want to talk, let me know
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Mara
I, too, suffer from depression which at times has reached a clinical level with several hospitalization.
Please remember that this is truly an illness. Somehow, you have to understand or make others understand that there are times just like a diabetic or heart patient that you cannot always be expected to do everything for yourself and everyone else. Because we cannot put a band-aide on it or cast it, etc. doesn't mean we do not have times in our lives we cannot be expected to be 100%.
I'm sure you know all this, but I just wanted to remind myself also.
Please--be good to yourself.
I see you're a soccer mom, as are all of my friends. My kids are into less all-consuming activities, but I know what it's like to spend all your time driving others, feeding others, picking up after others -- then they all complain and tell you how stupid you are! For me, nothing works as well as spending time with a true friend -- this site is great, but sometimes I stay away because there are many sad people and no way to really connect online.
Try finding a book club, walking club, anything that sounds just plain nice to you but doesn't feel like yet another obligation. These may be good places to chat about the challenges of your life -- for me, a therapist is less helpful than nice people who care. I mean, a therapist has to limit your time and can't really make any substantive suggestions, nor offer to stop by to offer support while you de-clutter your garage, haha. Try getting into something that feels like it's just for you, and hopefully you'll get some actual connection with others -- I know that I crave the chance to just talk to someone who has good insights or can share their own experiences, but all the moms I know are just too busy and tired!
Good luck, and write back if you'd like.
I can understand how you feel when everyday seems to bring another challenge or pit to stay out of. Minor problems can sometime's look like mountains if you just look straight at them. Instead of accepting that view look at them as an exploration whee you conquer/solve them as you come upon them. I am probably not expressing this concept as an easy thing to understand......
Having been laid off this summer with not a lot of jobs available about sent me off the deep end. I thought I would be where I was employed until I was ready to retire. It was a second home and place of support for me. Losing that and the relationships I had with people saddens me even now. There are not a lot of options left for me in the fields I have worked. I am to beaten up physically to handle what they require and when you add my age to them most emplolyers won't even consider me.
However, I do keep on looking and exploring other things that I might still make a difference at. Not every answer is going to be no. I know this because nature is balanced !! For every bad/negitive thing that happens there has to be a positive. Otherwise where would the world be ? I am fortunate to have the support of my wife of 27 (long) years as she likes to put it, my son, some great friends and 2 loving and needy dogs !! So far the sun has always come up the next day and as long as that happens hope springs eternal.
Just remember that even a glass that is half full can quench a thirst. Look at it, know what it is that is being quenched and use it. Refill it and don't dwell on the what if's (it spills) because God and nature will always provide the next mixture you need.
Hi Soccer Mom,
I don't think you're alone especially now with everything looking so bleak! I've been dealing with depression most of my life too. I only get state assistance and that's only 269 a month for cash and 176 in food stamps. Are you on any assistance programs? I would go to your local DHS department if you're not. ((((((((soccer mom))))) here is a hug for you. I hope this helps you. The thing I've been dealing with is still the death of my mother in 2005. Winter is not the best time for me. Please let me know if this helps.
Hi Soccer Mom,
I just thought of something. I don't know where you live but if there is a clubhouse in the area (if you receive Mental Health Services) that's a great place for me to hang out. I quit my 23 hour a week, every other week, babysitting job and went back to Clubhouse where I am very active. I hope you find help you need.
Bless you,
Tammy
I may be a few days late kinda behind on my emails. I'm a good listener. I'm not sure if you would want to call or just email. I do check my email everyday. I like to vent to people to. I have lived with depression for a long time and I'm also bi-polar. You can email me at jensandmarcy@earthlink.net if you'd like. My name is Marcy. I have a few people that I have met just for this purpose. If you would like to call on the phone just email me with your personal email and I'll email you my phone number. I'm going through a difficult time also. My husband is being medically retired from the military and is permanently disabled and I have 2 small children 10 and 6 soon to be 7. I hope this helps.
Hi,
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Hello, soccermom,
You've come to the right place to talk with people who will understand and listen.
You can write a SharePost about anything you want to talk about and then carry on a conversation through the comments.
Welcome!
Teri
Thanks.
I needed that. Sometimes I think that my problems (compared to the world's) are so minute that some will think I'm jut spoiled and a pain in the butt.
You're welcome.
You don't strike me as spoiled or a pain in the butt, but as someone who just needs to talk to someone else who understands living with depression. I suspect that when there's something you can do about things in your life, you do it, and do your besst. That's all any of us can do. Sometimes, we need to vent.
Teri
I would love to be the one to talk to you. If you want me to talk on the phone, let me know and I will either call you or give you my #. I can realate to you. I have lost seven very important people in the previous years. I am a widow now because my husband was one. They were all people I talked to on a regular basis and related to me. I miss them all so much. I live in the mountains and am isolated and I too need someone to talk to. I try to keep busy with computer, puzzles, and cooking. I only have myself to eat it so I dont cook as much as I used to. I enjoy doing for others. Please be aware that someone cares about you.
Your response touched me. I too live in a very rural area with no one to talk to that understands what I'm going thru. I have depression because of Fibromyalgia which almost controls my every move. I am married but have been very unhappy for six years because my husband has many mental problems too and he take all my energy. I am currently getting him signed up with the VA for PTSD and Agent Orange. He is now on depression meds and they are starting to work but he's just not the same person. He will need many years of therapy to be that kind man I once knew. Sometimes, I wish I was alone. I get so tired taking care of the bills, shopping, cooking, washing, cleaning and doing what I can to keep him going. I am only 50 but with the Fibro. I feel like 80. He is 62 turning ? We had 3 great kids, and now I have a new grand child. But with the Fibro, I can only hold the baby a few minutes. I live in a rundown mobil home, because he just can't fix anything and I try but I have little strength. He refuses to pay anybody to fix anything, so now I live in what looks like a junk yard. He also hords so he can't through much trash away. I try to have a pretty area in the yard but he always manages to put junk near it to mess it up. My family won't come see me any more. I'm to ashamed now for them to see my place. Even my son will only come maybe twice a year, and thats to update the computer for me. I started painting and writing to keep myself busy. I can't say on the computer to long. I pray alot. I have helped alot of poor people, trying to be a good person. I read the Bible and try to get Bill to understand the wrong things he is thinking. I too try to understand if there are lessons for me to learn thru all this. But, the depression at times makes me feel that I wish God would take me now. That I just an too helpless, with very little resources, alone 12/13 hours a day and yet when Bill comes home I feel lonely still. I have 6 cats and I love them very much. Sometime, I feel they are the only ones that really love me. Well, I hope I didn't bore you. Take care and email back if you like too.