My Father is severely depressed

By Daughter of a depressed father Monday, February 16, 2009

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My father is really depressed and I'm really worried about him. He's extremely worried about finances. Especially since him and my mother recently bought a house before they sold their present house. Then, the housing market crashed and he's afraid they won't be able to sell their old house and be able to continue payments on the new house. He has seen a doctor. The doctor has prescribed anti-depressants, but they have made him sick. So, he stopped taking them. He won't see a psychiatrist or try to get help. He's losing lots of weight. My mom is doing all she can to work two jobs and take care of him. It's tough. He just stares at the wall all day and sometimes can't get himself out of bed. He has talked of suicide, but I don't know how serious he is about it. I'm really worried about him! Can anyone give me some advice???

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psychoward1

2/17/09 3:56am

Get hi, back to the doctor to talk about the side effects of the antidepressants he took or just have him call the doctor. The doctor might try a different antidepressant. Your father needs to understand that he has an illness that needs to be treated and he cannot give up. He could go see a counselor instead of a psychiatrist and just talk about how he feels. There are many options open to him to get help. There are many over the counter products st johns wort, Sam-E.

Hope this helps.

Pat

Just some kid

10/24/09 4:01am

Please, spare the individuals from the thought alone of dependancy on prescription anti-depressents. Spirit comes from within, not from a drug made in a factory. I am not pending that you are the maker nor seller. Only miss imformed, and trying to help. Please take my comment into concideration when giving advice on the all natural accurance of deppression.

sandy

2/17/09 6:50am

There are many different anti-depressants out there. Some people get side effects from them and others don't or they may get side effects from one med and no side effects from another one. It really a trial by error situation. I tried 4-5 different meds. and got side effects from them all....nothing serious but nonetheless irritating. I finally realized I am the type of person that will probably have side effects from them all so I stayed on one and went thru the side effects and they did go away after a couple weeks. It takes awhile for the meds to build up in your system and then you have to get the right dose. I recommend a pyschiatrist for meds and depression as that is their specialty. I had more luck with a psychiatrist than I did with my family doctor. ALso see if he would consider counseling. There are a lot of people going thru depression right now with how the economy is. Be supportive but also know your dad has to want to help himself. He will have to put a lot of effort into getting thru this and it is not easy. Taking meds is a personal decision but for me it was a life saver. Could he possibly rent the other house out if he is unable to sell it? This can be treated if he gets the right help and helps himself.

Just some kid

10/24/09 3:55am

Listen, I'm only going to try and give the most upfront advice as I can without telling you what to do. I feel empathy because my father also suffers from depression. What I am learning with dealing with my father is to take care of myself first of all. If you were in a plane, and it was going to crash who's gas mask would you put on first? your's or your little sisters? You first, so you could be capable of helping your sister. The more he see's that you are doing good he may become less stressed. Help around the house, if it doesn't help your father it will help you feel better, trust me. Discuss matters other than his moods and problems. Ask him to take walks with you, it may seem weird at first but it's good to see him a little active. All this takes time, all depression is curable naturally. deppresion, as I have experienced, can make you inactive and incapable of physically living. It's like being sick. Remember, there is only a limit as to what you can do. Mabye through your actions you can give him come courage to focus on living. It's hard to deal with others emotions, especially if it has to do with your father. If anything you guys will grow. Good Luck. Email me if you need. Jacob_menard@yahoo.com

Georgina17

11/25/09 4:51pm

Hi there. I have just posted a question similar to this this evening. My dad is very down since my mum left, constantly talks about committing suicide to me, can't be bothered to eat or go out and struggles to get up in the mornings. I think your dad needs to see a therapist to discuss his issues and get them out in the open. Your lucky that both you and your mum are there to be supportive and keep reminding him that you are both there for him and love him no matter what happens financially. I don't see why he has to totally stop taking anti-depressants, there are many out there for him to try. It must have been an ingredient in it that particular one that made him ill and he should talk to his doctor about finding a more suitable one. My email address is: georgedevil_100@hotmail.com if you want to chat. Seems like we are going through roughly the same thing just different reasons for thier behaviours.

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